Need advice

[hellohey3]

Does anybody know how to get over a constant, extremely deep anger? I feel on the edge almost all the time. I figured out WHY I'm angry and talk to my aunt about it, but I'm still so angry.

[blackcat64013]

Well done to you for recognizing your big A.

Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion but it's important to deal with it in a positive way.

Anger management is about

* understanding your anger and why it happens.

* knowing the triggers and early warning signs of anger

* learning techniques to calm down and manage the situation before it gets out of control.

While it is good to talk to your relative, you should see an independent mental health specialist who deals in anger management e.g. a psychologist. To get the best result, when first contacting the psych's office, ask if they have a specialist in anger management. Don't be embarrassed to ask.

The Mayo clinic has put together 10 tips to tame your temper. The link to the Clinic

is

mayoclinic.org/healthy-life...

Let us know how you get on

[Rainsj]

I too suffer with anger issues, and can get really temperamental at times, the biggest thing for me is being able to recognize that I'm in that situation and instead of acting on it, finding a way to direct my attention to something else to help calm me down. (For the first part of me trying to do this I turned my anger into something like punching a pillow, or letting out a scream into a pillow, a safer way tovdo it)

[Shelfie9]

I didn't realize I was angry and I also didn't realize my response to everything was anger. I decided I didn't want to be angry, I didn't need to know why or where it came from just commit to wanting it to go away. I read a Buddha quote that really resonated with me, holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

It only hurts you. I want to be happy and you can't be angry and be happy. I use this statement too google.com/search?q=the+sec...

I learned to meditate, first to online guided stuff then transcendental and it had helped me a lot, calm mind means I'm more able to respond and not react to issues that bring up anger in me. Good luck I hope you find something that works for you. 💛

[Hidden]

I didn't realize that some of my anger and irritability at small things was a part of depression and anxiety symptoms - normally am very patient but just went off. So if you have a psychiatrist- share what you are going through because it can be part of the depression and/or anxiety. But depression is often said to be anger turned inside - so it may help to understand if you are angry at you. Talking it through with a counselor can help, exercise and journaling feelings can help you sort some of this too. So glad you shared this!