Hello, I am Flydoggy's wife. My beautiful and amazing man crossed over on June 23rd at 4am, after an 8 1/2 year battle with this awful disease. He left calmly and peacefully, wrapped in his family. I am so sad that this cancer took him at 64 yrs old, he was vibrant and strong really, almost to the end. We are sad, but we know he is still with us, I feel him around and he has visited many loved ones in this past two weeks.
I am writing to notify but also to share our experience of the last year with all. It has made the past year incredible beautiful and fulfilling for our family and given him peace and strength to face his transition. I want to preface this share and tell you we have never been alternative lifestyle people, not that there is anything wrong with that. We don't drink or smoke pot, we have been phyically fit and done a lot of travelling and love water skiing and cycling. A year ago my husbands cancer went wildly metastatic and we were quietly approached by a doctor who suggested we look into something called the Heart Protocol. It is a medicine journey that is believed to help people come to terms with serious illness and end of life possibility. We are in Canada, but I know that there are people doing this work in the US, please PM me if you would like any information.
Even though I have just lost my husband to this nasty disease, I fell like it is important to share with this forum that the last year of his 8 1/2 year fight was made not only bearable but beautiful and profound as a result of doing a number of these plant medicine journeys. Not sure they will allow this on this thread but my husband and I, and later my entire family together did several journeys with a combination of ketamine, mdma and mushrooms that gave us so much peace in our time together and an understanding of our profound connection as spiritual human beings and and that we will all carry that connection forward, regardless of the outcome of his illness. I will also note that although his last scans showed widespread skeletal bone mets and tumor involvement in multiple organs, he was pain free until the last 3 days. His spirit was joyful right to the end.
Although I miss him more than words can say, I know we will meet again and even before that will always be aware of our connection. I know this post sounds batsh*t crazy -I have never been a person who experimented with any of these types of drugs but watched a friend benefit deeply from her experience and was led to explore it…I could never have conceived of these words coming from me a year ago, but I am deeply grateful for the knowing we both gained from our experiences with this medicine. Know that this help is out there if you search for it…so many people could benefit from this. Good luck to you on your path forward. You are clear and brave and strong. I wish all of you strength and peace in your battle.
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I'm sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing that. In our support groups, we have discussed using such substances to help understand the world beyond our own mortality. I'm glad it brought you both some comfort, and I hope others, reading your story, may give it a try. I believe it will become increasingly legalized as psychologists come to understand its value.
my most sincere condolences for your loss , it’s sounds like Flydoggy was wrapped in your love for him. He was so lucky to have you there with him to say goodbye. Thanks for posting this on the group.
So sorry to hear of His passing, but glad that he was surrounded with the Love of family and friends. As for your plant medicine journey, it did what you wanted, so all good💙.
I use a vaper with Delta 8 THC as a sleep aid, was never a weed person prior to PCa
Rest in Peace Sir
Yes, you will be reunited with Him. Mahalo for posting
If you'd like me to add His name to my In Memoriam bib for an upcoming PCa 5k, please PM me
May your dear husband rest in Peace with the angels... God has given him an eternity of solace and to keep him in your thoughts forever. Bless you all...
Thank you so much for a highly inspirational message. I admire your attitude greatly. I was only diagnosed with metastatic pc about 6 weeks ago but after a couple weeks absorbing that, I have actually enjoyed life more fully on most days, knowing that I won’t live forever or perhaps not even another 5 years. It sounds like your husband did the same.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us. Although we all hope we will be fortunate and beat PC we all know we might not. I think too what you chose will become more available and common as time goes in. Still I am very sorry for your great loss, but am happy you are finding peace.💙and Hugs….Pat
Thats sad, really sorry to hear it. I hate this disease so much.
I was reading something a while back about the perception of time. To a mayfly, a day is a lifetime. To a human, 70/80 years is a lifetime.
But if you believe in life after death - which is eternal, relatively speaking they are both the same, because both are a mere blink of an eye compared to eternity.
So, you could consider your present time you have without your husband as an infitesimely small blip before you're back together again - forever.
I'm so sorry for your loss but glad your moments with him were peaceful and full of love. Thank you for your post and for letting us all know. These posts must be so hard to write but we're all so grateful for them. Prayers will be offered for all of you for strength and comfort.
Thank you so much for sharing your positive experience with drugs that are now only just being considered seriously. Good to hear that it helped you and your family.
Condolences, it is hard to come to terms of this disease as we all know it will take our life some day. All we can hope for is a peaceful transition like your husband. God bless and your family.
God bless you and your darling husband so very sorry for your loss. You sound an amazing Woman. Im so lucky also my husband helps me in my fight with ovarian cancer. Sending love & hugs SheilaFxxx
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing something that could help us all in our time if need as well. I'm planning to add it to my notes in case it's needed fir us. 💙
My sincere sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your husband.
What a strong post! You have dealt with his death in a way that nearly cheats death. You found another way to recognize that death is spiritual --as is in the teaching of all major religions.
Find solace that his quality of life was good until three days before his death.
There will be times when grief is raw. Those times of grief are inevitable for those that have deeply loved one who has passed. Then, family, friends and sometimes clergy can be helpful and sometimes not. Often time spent alone, reflecting of the beauty of a life shared with someone, while watching the sun set or rise can be therapeutic.
We never forget a significant loss--ever--we learn to live with a loss.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it is something worth looking into and experiencing. It sounds like the experience you had gave all of you much peace and comfort which is something that most of us can use. Blessings.
Condolences on your loss. Your post is so calming but at the same time awakening to those of us still in the battlefield. This make me think of the paramount value of having loved ones surrounding you. I am discovering that fighting this desease alone is senseless. I am going to look into the Heart Protocol. Something I can take with me and go back to be with my family overseas. 🙏🏻
peace and love to you. Thanks for sharing your story, I think you would be surprised at how many of us are interested in alternative medicine and the drugs you mentioned, after all we are mostly children of the 60s
Thank you for bringing plant medicine into this forum and I perfectly understand why you are sharing these experiences.
I send you love and compassion to help you to find strength in you and your family to let him go... and it should be easier knowing what you know now. We know that his spirit going home and at some point of time you will join him there and letting him go sooner is good thing to do.
I do know that time of disembodiment it is a time for celebrations... however I do realize that for many people a thing that commonly called death is a time of grief, despair and sadness.
I did use myself on multiple occasions plant medicine after metastatic diagnosis and will continue to use it. My choices are Ayahuasca and Iboga, both are wonderful master plants with Ayahuasca having more motherly female energy and Iboga more like father energy.
If some one wondering there are countries like Peru, Brazil, Costa-Rica, Spain, Portugal... and surprisingly in the US (under church registration or in native Americans reservations) where it can be used legally.
Besides that... magic mushrooms, San Pedro, Peyote are other examples of plant medicine.
Frog medicine - "Bufo Alvarius" (that I also used) - it is very good, short and powerful introduction to realities beyond the Ego and 3D world.
Kambo, another frog medicine (that I used as well) helps with spiritual and physical cleansing of the body from toxins, Kambo not usually used for spiritual development.
From all mentioned plant medicines - Iboga is the strongest one and requires some physical strengths, good cardio parameters and I would not use it as first experience.
One with willingness to work with himself and with the help of plant medicine can completely eliminate fear of death by moving from believing or not believing that life beyond physical body exist ... to knowing it does.... Going deeper one might realize many other things and that some of them are not describable by words... feel universal love ... if one experience it...one will never forget. Depending how ready you are... you may even gain... FREEDOM.
A lot of fellow members of this forum are suffering not because of physical pain from the PC, but from fears of death, fears of pain, fears of unknown, fears to lose things and people they are attached too, fears to lose personality created by their Ego, etc....
It is absolutely amazing that you shared plant medicine journeys as a family, because quite often families bringing additional suffering on themself and on person having PC because of pressure to keep person around for as much as possible by any means possible.
Love this, so happy for you that you have found this beautiful refuge from the fear and sometimes crippling anxiety that accompanies this disease. Our family is so very grateful to the medicines🙏 We are all one.
Thank you! A bit sad that many in this tread missed your main message and wholeheartedly express their condolences without realizing that it is not condolences you were after by starting this thread.
I might one day write new separate thread on the benefits of plant medicine.
Investing in plant medicine (preferably in retreat and especially with one’s family) is the best investment in yourself and one’s family that money can buy.
Best wishes and happiness to you and your family 🤗🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your journey together with us. I'm grateful to hear that in spite of a long time with this cancer that his passing was peaceful and relatively pain free. You have loved him well. Wishing you deep peace as you move forward.
Very sad that this happened to someone as young and full of life as your husband. May your husband rest in peace, and you find your own peace in your heart.
Sorry to hear of your loss. Thanks for sharing about the plant based (psychedelic) medicines. Those could be helpful to us dealing with these issues. I hope they can become more mainstream and accepted. I wish they had been available as an assist to psychotherapy when I was younger. Addiction, anger and grief issues are what I was left to deal with.
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