My last post and thank you

Today I sit next to my fathers hospital bed as he begins to take his last breathes. Our journey with PCa was a short but long 5 months. It was YOU the men and women in this group that helped me, help my dad in this fight. I want to thank you for your support, and your constant posts of information.

As the pain increased he asked his children and wife to say goodbye. To give him permission to be out of pain, out of suffering, and to go home to the lord. Last night we gave him our kisses, hugs, love yous, and will miss you forever with broken hearts.

It brings me peace to know I helped him along the way and took care of him the best that I could. I share with you this- as you approach final days don't be scared to tell your family your ready- it helps them, ask for the pain control you want and close your eyes and dream away.

Again from the bottom of my heart thank you for being my hope, my voice, and my understanding of this horrible disease.💙💙

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  • I could not read this without tears and heartache for your Dad, Mom, You and your family and friends heartbreak. Sending hugs, love ♡ and prayers.

    Jackie

  • You have been amazing for your dad. My thoughts are with you.

  • My prayers are with you and your family. May God welcome your dad's soul and make your sorrow be eased.

    Dennis

  • I understand how you are feeling at this moment in time. Mike asked me if he was dying one day and although I knew he was trying to tell me he knew it was near the end I kept a brave face just as you have done. This is now a time for you and your mum and all the family to comfort each other and know that your Dad knew that you loved him and did all that you could to keep him safe and as comfortable in his final days.

    Sending you a big hug and a prayer.

    Jackie

  • Clearly God blessed you with your father and your father with you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family🙏

  • I am sorry to hear about your father. As you hopefully know, we are all one family here. We share good times and bad. Please know that everyone here gives your family a hug. Again, so sorry.

    I am glad that your family got some information and comfort from this sight. It has helped me. It was a great man here, Eric, that took me under his wings when I was diagnosed with advanced cancer. May God bless your whole family.

  • So sorry to hear of your family loss. You helped him so much in the final months. Do consider coming back again, to share other things you will have learned in the months ahead. Now is a time to transition toward giving comfort, aid, and compassion to those who remain in this world. That includes yourself. That includes the spouse he left behind. There are Support Groups for widows that can be very, very helpful. You might be able to nudge her in that direction after some time has passed, and much of the flurry of activity immediately after a death has subsided a bit.

    If in doubt, for now, ... Hug someone, allow yourself to be hugged. Then hug some more. It will help, both ways.

    Charles

  • I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I hope that you can find comfort in this difficult time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Know that he is in another place now, full of joy and free from his diseased body. You will be with him again.

  • Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

  • Sorry for your loss and thank you for your wise thoughts for us.

  • I would like to add my condolences to the other folks who replied to your message. Some or all of us remember our interactions with you, & we appreciated all of your efforts on your father's behalf. And thank you very much for your kindness in writing to us at this difficult time.

    Neal

  • Blessed is a child like you for the precious life of a father who departed earlier than the expectations of his loved ones. I read once again all the 18 posts that you made on his behalf and feel deeply thankful for your sincere alliance with us in a bid to save your father's life. May your beloved father rest in peace, eternally with no more pain! My thoughts are with you and your bereaved family.

    Sisira

  • I am sending my love and hugs to you. X

  • God bless you for the care and comfort you have provided your Dad and family. May the God who receives your father home with great joy, comfort you all.

  • Rest in Peace!

  • You and your family will be in my prayers, thank you for your advice during this difficult time as we all can benefit from your experiences. Keep in your heart that soon your father will be pain free and that you have been a great advocate for him.

  • Thank you for sharing this very personal message. My thoughts are with you, your dad and the whole family.

    It is so very difficult to let go, especially when we love somebody close to us so much. But maybe it is a little bit of a comfort to know that he won't ever suffer with pain and illness again.

    You have been very strong.

    Warm wishes

    Mel and Paul.

  • Thank you for all of your posts about your fathers struggle.I am so sorry for your loss,my prayers are with you and your family at this time.😥

    This Blog means so much to all of us.💞

  • With tears, my prayers are with you and your father.

  • to CBurnett

    I know that your father's pain and troubles will soon be over and God will find a place for him. There will be a special place in heaven for you for all you have done for him.

    This is not the end for him but just the beginning.

    God Bless.

    Ζωή στους ζωντανούς (Greek = life to the living).

    j-o-h-n Saturday 06/03/2017 11:12 AM EST

  • I love and respect how your family loved and helped your father through this journey of PCa. When my father died I needed a grief counselor for several months to help me with the feelings I experienced. Thank you for sharing with us your grief and loving feelings of your father. Jim Van Horn

  • You are in our thoughts and prayers. May God ease your pain!

  • Thank you all. At 3:45am this morning he took his last breathe peacefully. He is pain free 💕

  • May your dad rest in peace. And may everlasting arms of strength sustain you.

  • Our hearts and prayers go out to all your family.

  • I am thinking of you and sending heartfelt sympathy. Xx

  • As I read your news of your father"s passing and all the kind replies that have said it all graciously, I merely add my sincere condolences on your family"s loss. May you find strength in the memories of your father"s life and celebrate all of those.

    David

  • I have a friend that believes if you face testing that you will be rewarded for going thru that testing in the next life.I belive that your father is blessed to have a daughter like you ..That love will always be carried in his soul.

  • Rest in peace fellow warrior. Watch over your loving family.

  • So sad to read this, remember your time and Happy memories with your Dad, he will watch over you all and his love will live on in your heart, xx

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