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Lost the fight

On Feb 3, 2018 , my sweet husband lost his fight with prostate cancer. Again, diagnosed at age 48 and fighting it for 12 years, he passed. Our hearts are broken, since he was only 60 years old. We did do genetic testing last September as his father passed from prostate cancer at age 64, but all 12 genes (including BRCA 1 and BRCA 2) testing negative for any mutations. We are sad and wish each of you the best in your fight against Prostate CA.

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Dear Sally,

My deepest condolenses for your loss. Your dear husband fought so well and so bravely as did you for him.

My prays and wishes for you and your family during this very difficult time.

May there be many happy memories to share and remember.

Warmest regards,

Marguerite

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I am terribly sorry for your loss. Our caregivers are very special. I hope years of happy memories will crowd out the sadness.

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Dearest Sal,

My most sincere condolences for you and your family's heartbreak and pain. I pray with time your hearts will heal.

Deepest sympathy,

Jackie

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Sal,

Words cannot adequately express our sadness - It pains us all to hear when any of our brothers succumbs to PCa. You and your husband fought this disease bravely for many years.

May your husband Rest In Peace and may you have happy memories to cherish of your time together.

Thank you for sharing and for the well wishes.

Sincerest condolences,

James

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So sorry for your loss. I went back and read your previous posts about all the many treatments and things you guys went through before his disease really progressed despite the treatments. You Both did so much, and endured so much, particularly during the last 2-3 years.

I wish you and yours healing and peace in the times ahead.

Big hugs,

Charles

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I am very sorry for your loss. I hope he passed on peacefully.

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Dear Sally,

Anything I say will fall short. Please know that everyone here grieves for your lost. I hope that you can take comfort in that the two of you fought if as hard and as long as you could. I wish I could give you my shoulder to cry on. We are all family here. A loss of one is a lost for us all.

May God’s Grace be on your whole family.

Walter

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My heart bleeds for you and yours.

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Cherish those last 12 years, you were there for him and he for you. Remember the good memories..Remember that Love never dies.. Peace to you and your family.

Wings

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Dear Sal,

I'm so sorry for your loss. May the best memories of your husband be with you and the comfort to know that you did all your best. I pray for your strength in this new stage of life. God cares you are not alone.💛

Sincerely,

Erika.

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My heart goes out to you and your family. Please accept my condolences for your loss. I will pray for you and your family.

Dennis

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My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. At a loss for words, please know all of you are in my prayers.

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I am terribly sorry for your loss I can't tell you how you feel but I have lost family members and Friends from prostate cancer and other types of cancer I have been fighting prostrate cancer since 2011 as said sorry for your loss. Go with God

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Can’t say much that has not already been said. He was a lucky man to have you by his side, now do not forget about you and your needs, peace be with you.

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Hi Sal4don,

I am very sorry to hear your sad news and can not think of anything to say that will help.

My thoughts are with you.

I am an Australian who has extensive disease but at the moment I am reasonably well.

I know that this will not last as your loss underlines.

Best wishes from "down under"

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you are in my thoughts, i am at a lost for words

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Sal4don, I am so sorry for your loss, I personally know what a long hard fight that is.

Dan

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Dear Sally, I'm so very sorry to hear of your great loss. Your dear husband was so young. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I to am a care giver and we live in fear everyday watching our loved one fight this dreaded decease. I feel you pain. Take care and my God give you strength at this very sad time.

Love/Hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Lynn. Pa.

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My deep sympathy goes out to you and your family. Your husband is a great example to all of us. It takes courage to fight and not give up.

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So sorry and sad that see this. No adequate words. Our prayers are with your family.

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Hi Sal4Don.

I am so so sorry for your loss. You must be heart-broken. Hopefully you will find some comfort in thinking about how much time you had together and hopefully many of those memories are good.

Best wishes, love and light and strength!

Mel and Paul.

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I'm so sorry for you loss love xx

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Peace to you. Cherish all the good memories. Peace.

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Sal4don,

Deepest sympathy to you and your entire family. Those of us traveling the same path can’t fully appreciate your loss, but we share your grief. We have lost one of our “soldiers.”

On my way to church. Will keep your husband and you in my special prayers today. I hope that soon your sadness will be turned into happy memories.

Mark

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I am so very sorry. I really have no words.

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It was, no doubt, a valiant fight. May he rest in peace. And peace to you and your family.

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So sad for your loss 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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So sorry for your. May the happy memories help you as you grieve

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Hi Sally, I have no words to make your pain go away but please know I’m thinking of you. Our husband was very young to be taken from you. Try to remember he is no longer in pain but doing all the things he loved to do before this horrible disease came into his body

Best of wishes to you as you get thru this.

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Sal4don please accept our deepest sympathies from my wife and I in the loss of your beloved husband . Just know that we are praying for you and your family for " the peace that passes all understanding " . When ever one of the members of this online family passes we all truly feel your loss and grieve with you . May the heartfelt memories of the good times in your lives together comfort you at this most difficult time and for all the days of your life .

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So sorry. Wishing you the best in getting past this sad but inevitable event in your lives. blessing in the future as you honor his memory.

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Dear Sal,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family. May your husband rest in the presence and love of our Lord.

George

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So sorry for your loss. Sending our thoughts and prayers to you.

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To Sal4don,

Your husband Don fought a valiant battle with great support from a loving wife. May he Rest in Peace and may you and your family take his passing as God's blessing that his suffering is over.

I always tell my wife that the hardest part of my going to the big comedy store in the sky is my learning how to play the harp.

j-o-h-n Sunday 03/04/2018 1:56 PM EST

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So sorry for your loss. I hope that there were many good years in those 12 since diagnosis. Wishing you warmth and strength. - Brenda

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Gods peace and love to yo and yours

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You are in our thoughts and prayers tonight. I was diagnosed at 47 so myself and my wife understand your journey. He was blessed to have a partner like you to love and care for him. It’s now time for you to have support and love from all those around you.

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So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that over time the wonderful memories that the two of you made will overcome the sadness that you must feel. Let's hope and pray that we will soon stop hearing of our brothers who couldn't slay the beast. May your husband rest in peace.

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It sounds like it has been a very long and difficult battle especially given his young age for this disease. I hope that your grief will over time turn into a smile about some great time you had together. Those times are the important ones to carry with you.

One thing we do not discuss on this site that I would like to know, as I am sure others would, is what the kind of struggles you and your husband went through over the last year before his passing.

I totally understand if you decide not to answer this, as it may be too emotional. If at some future time, you are willing, I would greatly appreciate your sharing of your experience, physically for your husband, emotionally for both of you and if and how you were able to prepare yourselves for the inevitable outcome.

I am in a similar position, though early in the process with an aggressive form of the disease that is incurable but "manageable". I am concerned not just for my own experience but what my wife and family will be going through. I feel like I really have no idea what to expect. Though everyone's experiences are surely different, hearing what others have gone through is helpful in preparing ourselves and being accepting of what is to come.

Please accept my deepest condolences and my hope that you can move on with your life, knowing that you did all you could and made his life much better for it.

Thank you for letting us know.

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My deepest condolences for your loss. My heart is so broken for you and your family.

Send you a big hug and I'm praying for peace on this difficult time

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God bless your family!

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“I have fought the good fight. I have finished the race. I have kept the faith”. 2 Timothy 4:7 You both fought a good fight. Peace and prayers.

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So sorry for your loss. Remember the good times and say goodnight to the stars every night - he is watching X

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I’m so very sorry for your loss. My sweet father passed away from this disease last week and our hearts are broken too, so I know the pain you are feeling . We, as caregivers, fight this disease right along with them. Your husband was lucky to have you right by his side. Condolences to you and your family.

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We Our prayers thoughts are with you and your family.

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Dear Sally: This news is horrible and thank you for sharing. We all grieve with you. May God bless you and your husband I am sorry for your loss, sincerely, Stan AZ

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I am very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family,

With deepest sympathy,

Ann

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