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Lost the battle, but won the war


It is with immense sadness I announce the passing of my husband of 24 years. He passed away on Dec 29th. He fought the good fight right to the end. My heart aches for him every second of the day. I know that he's in a better place and not suffering anymore after only 21 months of fighting this dreadful disease. The victory was won the day he gave his life to Christ.

I will be forever grateful for all the informative posts and reply's to my posts. I will keep all of you in my prayers as you continue your fight.

God bless each of you! ❤

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So sorry for your loss. It’s so difficult when we lose one of our brothers here. He certainly put up a good fight (great photo). I hope you find comfort in knowing that he truly is in a better place. 🙏

Please accept our deepest condolences - May he rest in peace in God’s arms...


I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find peace that you were by his side the whole way. I went through the same with my brother. Almost surreal still and it has been a year. There is some comfort with this tremendous community who are offer such hope and are true warriors. God bless you and your family.


in reply to chalaan

So sorry for your loss.. May God be with you and grant you strength...

in reply to chalaan

Thank you for your support! God bless!

in reply to chalaan

Thank you for the kind words. God bless!

I too, am so sorry for your loss. My condolences and feelings are the same as all those who have written to you and your family on this wonderful site.

Sorry for you loss

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace knowing you were a fierce advocate for him. Yost.

I wouldn't have had it any other way. Just wish I could have done more! Thanks for the kind words- God bless you!

I'm sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you

So sorry, lost another brother. My sincerest condolences to the family. If you would like, I can honor him on my back bib at the Surf City marathon in Feb in Huntington Beach, I unfortunately have 17 men on there now.

Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more.


in reply to dockam

Thank you- he would have liked that. God bless you!

in reply to Godschild62

May I have his name please

in reply to dockam

My apologies- Bernie Richardson 🙏

in reply to Godschild62

No worries, I'll post a pic afterwards

There's no words to express how my heart feels for you. I pray that the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus.

With Christ we have hope. Remember you are not alone. A hug to you.🙏💛

in reply to Chiquis

Amen! Thank you for the prayers- much needed! God bless you!

Peace be with you, I’m sorry for your loss of a husband and a man that had to fight this battle but not alone. God Bless you.

Thank you so much for the kind words- God bless you!

God Bless you, praying for you.

Thank you for your strength. Thank you for sharing his. Its a blessing to all us. Prayers be with you and your family...

Thank you- God bless

I am so sorry for your loss may god keep you in his hands and watch over you and your family...…..

The only thing that I can say that is positive, is your husband finding Salvation in Yeshua/Jesus. As a Believing Jew, I have privately prayed for you to find comfort, grace, and Shalom, and that the Holy Spirit look after you, during these times of mourning.

Your husband will find what Paul described in Thessalonians, of a mystery of how one goes to sleep and is awakened as if no time as expired, in a very special place, we call Heaven.

Adonai Elohim will be with you!


in reply to Nalakrats

Well said Nal.

Thanks Nalakrats- I really appreciated all your posts and support you give to all the members. It's invaluable. I must remember that our citizenship is in Heaven. Thank you for all the prayers!

Your reply brought me tears. Yes Heaven is our Eternal Goal-Amen


God bless you my friend!

Very sorry for your loss, Godschild. Your husband exudes happiness, contentment, and of course, peace in this picture! I'm guessing his wish is for all of these things for you moving forward. Thanks for sharing. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Best, Leo

in reply to LF27

Thank you for reaching out. You pinpointed my husband exactly. He made having cancer look like a cake walk. Praying for nothing but healing for you- God bless you!

My heart breaks for you and with you. I too will be where you are soon. May you find peace yourself one day. Love and prayers to you and your family...

Sheri (wife, caregiver, cheerleader) 💗

in reply to Tub111

I really don't like your reply- as my heart is breaking thinking one day you'll be in my position. Not sure which is harder? Watching your loved one suffer, but being able to kiss and hold or the passing knowing they're not suffering, but not being able to touch or hold them again. Enjoy every second with him, you never know when or how things will take a turn for the worse. God bless you❤

in reply to Godschild62

I am so sorry. I never meant to offend you. I take your words to heart. I pray you find comfort one day down the road. God bless you and yours 💗

in reply to Tub111

My dear,

You never offended me at all. I just couldn't hit the line button knowing you'll be in my shoes one day. That's what I meant. Sorry if I came across differently. My mind is not all there. My heart breaks for everyone who's in our shoes. I'm so sorry to make you think otherwise. Praying that your journey ends differently.


in reply to Godschild62

No apologies needed. I just wanted to reach out say how amazingly strong you are. All of us here are one extended family even though we have never met. Praying for you. 💗

I just started this group to support my friend that I am taking care of who has stage IV prostate, I am new. I have been an RN for 12 years. I am so so sorry my friend.....So sorry. your family will be in my thoughts. Tracy, RN

Your friend is blessed. I have a nursing background and our daughter is a nurse. This helped in many ways, but didn't help emotionally. If not it was harder as you know what you see going on- no denial here. God bless you and your friend!

So sorry for your loss!

I’m sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

So very sorry for your loss! God bless you with strength and peace knowing he is with our Lord.

It's all I hold onto! Blessings!

My condolences 🙏🏻

So sorry to hear. I know soon I could be writing this...but we always have hope & faith. Sincere condolences. From a wife of a good man who has prostate cancer that went to his lymph nodes & bones...and he also had radiation & now planning chemo in February..

in reply to Miriver

I will be keeping everyone on this sight in my prayers! This is a very difficult journey to walk. He's blessed to have you. Thank you for your support!

Gods speed and love to you.....

I am so sorry !

I am so sorry for

Your loss, he is in heaven with my father as well as all the others that have lost the battle. I wish you strength during this time. 🙏🏻 Big Hugs, and my deepest condolences.

gee 21 months that's like under 2 years, me i'm on my 11 year


I hope you're feeling blessed right now? Not everyone is so lucky!

My deepest Condolence

in reply to Cubano

Thank you

Find peace and comfort in Gods love. Peace to you and your family.

You are in my thoughts.


Thank you so much for sharing. Know that we all share in your loss.

Only God knows how much time any of us have left. We keep up the fight until we no longer can.

Amen- we're all in line the day we're born, where we end up in the line, only God knows. God bless, health and happiness!

My heart breaks for you Godschild. That is a wonderful pic of him...maybe that was a “knowing” smile on his face there. His suffering is over. I hope that your grief will soon transform into happy memories of your 32 years together. As always, when we lose one of our brothers, it is a sobering reminder to those of us in this forum that some day our spouses or significant others will be writing the same post for us. May God bless you and your family. May He bring you comfort and solace in your time of sorrow. My thoughts and prayers are with you today. You are so right that he may have lost the cancer battle, but was victorious the day he gave his life to Christ.


Thanks Mark for your kind words! Praying for you!

Very sorry for your loss.

May God bless you and keep you !


So sorry to hear this. May you find comfort in memories and in the thoughts and support of your family and friends, as well as all of us here.


I am so sorry for your loss....your dear man looks quite young...I can only imagine how badly it hurts to have lost him (from this earthly life) so soon....but I praise God for the victory and thank him that you can have the peace and comfort of knowing that all is well with your beloved and that you will one day be reunited...Meanwhile, I pray for you to be given a keen sense of the Lord's presence, wrapping His arms around you and giving you strength, comfort and reassurance. Blessings and hugs, b

Thank you for your kind words of support. Bernie was 56 years old. He passed 2 days before my birthday. I'm so thankful he knows Jesus and that he's not suffering anymore. God bless you!

A warrior here and now in heaven. God bless him and may God give you comfort. ❤

in reply to Brbnbrn


So sorry to hear; hope you will find peace and be comforted by your memories of your life together.


Very sorry for your loss - May He Rest in Peace.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear husband

So very sorry

Prayers for all!

So sorry for your deep loss. But as believers in Christ we know you will see your husband again. Joni Eareckson Tada, Christian speaker, (paralyzed and in a wheelchair since age 16 with daily pain, now near 70yrs); compares death to a labor pain and suddenly coming into the presence of God. Prayers for comfort.

May you be comforted.

I love this photo of your husband. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and hugs. ❤️

According to Scripture, To die in Christ is gain.

Bless you and your family.

Amen- it's just the selfishness of living in the flesh right now. God bless you!

May he find peace in the arms of Jesus, may you find comfort knowing he is with Christ.

I am so very sorry for your loss, and pray that knowing he's in God's arms brings you great comfort.

Sorry to hear this .

I am so sorry for your loss.

Love never ends; nor does it die. May Peace surround you both.

My heart aches for you!

Hi, my name is Lynn, also a caregiver for my husband. I share your pain, it's so very hard to loose your spouse.

I'm very sorry for your great loss, I'm sure your husband will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him. I will pray that you will find the strength at this very hard time. God bless 🙏🏻


I am so sorry for your loss, this disease has taken so many wonder people who have been warriors in fighting this disease. Know that we all have tremendous love for those that are our partners and care givers! This disease brings so much pain but also joy when we develop a deeper relationship with our spouses, partners, family and friends. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

God Bless you and your family.

As a fellow believer in Jesus Christ, I sympathize with your loss, but also rejoice in knowing that he is now with the Lord. I pray that He will continue to give you comfort, as this is the way I feel even now, not worried, not fearful of what may come, while continuing to fight this disease. JR

I am so sorry for your loss and I wish blessings and love on you and your family.

Dear Godschild62 At times like this it's hard for me to put my feelings into words. I didn't know your husband's name but from his picture he really looked like a cool guy that I would hang out with. The V for victory sign he made was right on target, cause he lost the battle but won the war. God Bless and Keep Him near his side. I will contribute $50.00 to MaleCare with the hope that this small donation will keep your husband's memory alive on this much needed forum.

J-o-h-n Friday 01/04/2019 4:01 PM EST

in reply to j-o-h-n

Hi John,

Thank you for your kind words! He was an amazing human being. I am also on a woman's support site on FB and I read of poor women who's husband's don't know how to deal with their diagnosis and the treatment. Their significant others get verbally and mentally abused. I was so blessed my husband loved me every second of the day and never even questioned why. Thank you for the donation you made on his behalf. God bless you and your journey!

I, like all the others posting here, am very sorry for your loss. I was happy to hear that he accepted Christ before passing, and I am sure he is resting with the lord as we all grieve his passing. I still feel that this disease is harder on the caregivers than it is on those of us fighting the disease. I know it is very hard on my wife of 41 years. Thanks for posting here and inspiring us all.

Thank you for reaching out- it's so wonderful to have such great support! Praying for your health! God bless you and your family! Yes we're blessed although he's not in his earthly body.

sorry for your loss...

Our sympathies and best wishes to you and your family, may your faith and happy memories comfort and support you over this sad time. Thank you for sharing.

I’m so sorry that you lost your husband, and so quickly. Sending hugs to you virtually.

So sorry for your loss. PC is always said to be a slow moving cancer that can be kept in check for a long time, but obviously that is not the case.

in reply to joeguy

Not always, my husband was diagnosed at stage 4 from the get go. The doctor said he never treated PC that was this aggressive. Stay on top of your treatment, things can change in a heartbeat! God bless!

I am so sorry to hear this. Peace be with you and your family

I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and comfort.


So very sorry. Know you had such great hopes just 6 months ago. I know that your faith will sustain you. God bless.

My sincere condolences. God Bless you🙏🏻

I’m so sorry. I can tell by the picture that your husband was a very special man.

Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours

I think the death of someone, after battling an illness like this, is often hardest on those people closest to them who are left behind. It sounds like you have many wonderful memories of your time with your husband and those will remain with you forever.

While that empty part in your life may remain, I hope it will grow smaller over time and you will be able to move forward and enjoy every moment life has to offer. I am certain your husband would approve. While our lives are transient, love is eternal and you will always have that.

Take care.

in reply to dmt1121

Thank you so much for those kind words. Pain is the price when you lose a loved one.

I am so sorry for you...my heart goes out to you during this time. Bravo to your wonderful husband for his strength and his fighting the good fight to the end.

Rest In Peace

So very sorry for your loss. My God wrap his loving arms around you for comfort.

So very sorry for your loss

Hi Godschild62,

I'm sorry to hear your loss. Please take care of yourself as I believe your husband wanted that you would be ok moving forward. God bless you and your family.

I see a man who loved deeply and see your words to know it is mutual. You have a home here with us and will be in our hearts always. May you find the comfort of those who support you be able to lift your burden just a little.

I am so truly sorry and saddened that your precious husband left the earth way too soon. I'm so glad you both had each others love and your love for God within your hearts. May your loving memories comfort you, your family and friends with time. Peace and healing hugs.

Most sincere,


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