A Survival Guide. Perhaps this may help some. It is the best book I have read in relation to what you can do to help yourself when you have a cancer diagnosis. I continue to use it as a guide 5 years later.
Key points from chapter 3, Disease and the Mind, in Dr Bernie Siegel’s book
Love Medicines and Miracles. First published by Rider in the UK, 1986
I first read this book in 2009, after I was found to have metastatic prostate cancer in my lungs, when I began a search for ways that I might survive. It showed me then that there is a great deal that we can do for ourselves when faced with a potentially terminal illness. I have gone back over this chapter now to distil off what I see as the main messages, so that I can better apply the lessons I learned then. These are;
•Healthy self esteem is essential
•Peace of mind is essential
•Give vent to your feelings
•Don’t suppress anger
•Don’t feel a failure
•Be at peace with yourself and your surroundings
•Have real meaning in your life
•Avoid feeling trapped
•Avoid feeling helpless
•Male camaraderie is needed
•Anticipate recovery
•Avoid predicting illness
•Express your emotions – especially those relating to your needs
•Enjoy what you do each day
•Use drugs and surgery to buy time to change your life
•Be honest. Avoid an outward ‘show’ of happiness
•Visualise change to bring it about
Prepared by Gibbo41
November 2011