I'm in the wrong group

[TormentedAndTortured]

I think I'm past the point of "I need strategies to help deal with ADD" I'm more at the point of "I'm losing my mind and I don't know what to do". Anyway, best of luck to everybody

[MatureCreativeL]

You are really NOT ALONE! Don't leave before the miracle!

[TormentedAndTortured in reply to MatureCreativeL]

What miracle ? When ? Sorry, just very cynical. Thanks though, I appreciate it

[RedDog60]

I relate somewhat.

[AuDHD3245]

See ya

[TormentedAndTortured in reply to AuDHD3245]

Sounds like you're taking what I do or write personally. Why? It's not about you. Everything isn't about you

[AuDHD3245]

Just out of interest, it's interesting how you used the words 'think' and 'mind', both are in the 'brain', so, who in you is listening and controlling all of that??? Your answer lies within, sir

[TormentedAndTortured in reply to AuDHD3245]

Yeah, as in "I think I'm losing my mind." Or, "I feel like I'm losing my mind." Do you like that better?Life drives me crazy constantly. What are you getting at? And why do you call me "sir" ? Is that some sort of passive aggressive condescending thing? Sounds like it. Who in you is telling you to respond like that ? Look within yourself, sir

[AuDHD3245 in reply to TormentedAndTortured]

Oh, you're just one of them attention ones. I dont get it then

[Doomann]

Hi, TormentedAndTorturedbe,

I can feel the weight behind your words, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s exhausting when ADHD feels like it’s taking over, and I want you to know you’re not alone in this battle. Let’s try to focus on a few things that might help, even if they feel small right now:

1. Pause and Breathe: I know it sounds simple, but when everything feels like it’s spiraling, even stopping for a moment to breathe deeply can help you find a sliver of calm. You don’t have to solve everything in that moment—just focus on the breath.

2. Write It Out: If your thoughts are racing, grab a notebook or open your phone and spill them out. Don’t worry about making sense; just get the chaos out of your head and onto the page. Sometimes, seeing it written down makes it feel less overwhelming.

3. Start Small: It’s okay if big tasks feel impossible right now. Pick one tiny thing—drink a glass of water, take out the trash, or clear a corner of your desk. Just one thing. Momentum often starts with the smallest action.

4. Reach Out: You don’t have to carry this all by yourself. If there’s someone you trust—a friend, a family member, even a support group—lean on them. You deserve to feel supported and understood.

5. Professional Guidance: If things feel unmanageable, it might be time to revisit a mental health professional. They’re there to help you navigate this storm, and it’s okay to ask for more support or a new approach.

6. Move Your Body

I make it a point to take an hour-long walk every Monday—it’s my way of resetting. Even something as simple as a short walk or a bit of stretching can help release the tension that builds up in your mind. It doesn’t have to be anything big; just moving a little can make a difference and help shift your energy.

You’re carrying so much right now, and I see that. You’re not broken or failing—you’re just in a tough moment. Take it one step at a time, and know I’m here if you need someone to listen or brainstorm ideas with.

Thanks for reading

Doomann

[TormentedAndTortured in reply to Doomann]

Thank you, I appreciate it. Good advice

[Jordana1995]

I don't know what you're going through or what your situation is, but the suggestions that Doorman gave are great!! I would just add a couple more suggestions. I have read a lot on meditation for ADHD that it can me helpful for the mind & body. Also get some lavender candles for your home, the scent aids in helping you relax. I work from my house & I have the lavender scent in my office & they really do help. Lastly, get a pet if you can. I can't tell you how many times that I have had a bad day & my dog comes up to me to comfort me. They are great therapy & they always know when you need comforted. You are not alone & I know life can give out more than what we feel like we can handle. Hang in there

[Tigger4me]

Hi, Do you have a primary care physician you know, like and/or trust? Sorry if I'm ask about things you have already written about, but talking to a competent and knowledgeable medical professional is always a good place to start for anyone with ADHD. They can also be of help with other things medical that often co-exist with ADHD and often make everything worse. One distinct advantage of seeing a health professional is that they may suggest medical options that can have provide immediate help.

The behavioral advice mentioned above are of great help to anyone with ADHD. But be aware that behavioral modifications are generally not as "fast acting" as medical options.

Seeking support and connection is often not easy for us with ADHD, but I find it essential for maintaining balance and reducing the adverse effects of this condition.

[Emaisty]

I understand completely. I too feel like I'm losing my mind, but I know if I had the right medication and therapy I could use my ADHD in a positive way. The mind is very powerful. Alot of entrepreneurs and successful business owners have ADHD. I feel we are very intelligent and very creative at least my son and I can be. It just sucks not having enough physicians or good enough health insurance to get help with medication and therapy.

[Slothwidget]

Hi. I too feel this way. As the older we get the more pointless the struggle can feel. They say emotional regulation is difficult for us. So those negative feelings can be all consuming. At least we are still trying?