Relationships

[Liber]

Good evening. I would like to know if there is a group for neurodivergent people to find a partner?

[LisethHIS]

Good day, Liber,

Thank you for contacting CHADD National Resource Center on ADHD. I don’t know of a specific app or group, but we do have adult support groups available. That’s another great way to connect with others and perhaps you can meet a partner. Here’s the link! chadd.org/affiliate-locator/

If there is this anything else you need, please let me know.

Best,

Liseth

Health Information Specialist

CHADD’s National Resource Center on ADHD

chadd.org

[STEM_Dad]

Not here. I know that groups like that exist (probably on Facebook, Discord, and other platforms). I also know that there are at least a couple of dating apps for people with ADHD or Autism.

I've been considering whether to try something like that out, but I'm just not ready yet (divorced almost 3 years).

[corallu in reply to STEM_Dad]

I think one adhd person in a couple is enough😂

[STEM_Dad in reply to corallu]

Probably so, but neurodivergent people are usually more understanding of each other, than neurotypical people are of neurodivergent people.

My ex-wife wasn't very understanding of my ADHD, and actually was initially invalidating. She had made many, many observations about my inattentive traits over many years...but she didn't even acknowledge my diagnosis for about a year.

(It wasn't long after that when she left me for someone else. She seems very neurotypical most of the time, but I don't think she's completely NT... I don't think she has ADHD, but she definitely has had her own atypical behavioral issues.)

If I ever do get into another relationship, I want to be with someone who will at least try to be understanding of my ADHD. I think that I might more easily find that in someone who has ADHD or autism, or who grew up with a sibling who does.

That's just my 2¢

[wtfadhd]

sounds like u might be struggling to find a partner? and maybe its because of your unmanaged ADHD symptoms? im just guessing that bc most dating groups are geared for the idea to “ find someone like me” hence outdoor dating groups, farm dating, christian dating etc they are based on interest n values n lifestyle.

but u are wanting to specifically find an adhd date site…and adhd isnt a hobby/ interest or a value system and very few people with ADHD have similar personalities or hobbies or values .…. 🤷🏻‍♀️

romance n partnership can be very challenging in general and ADHD symptoms can def exacerbate the challenge. but just think about how terrible a relationship with TWO people still in the struggle with ADHD would be!!!

most ADHD folks struggle to understand others and people call us distant n aloof. , and if we r on the empath side, we tend to attract super unhealthy people that we “ see potential in” lol again, not always but its common! this isnt bc we are terrible or broken people, its just the beautiful way we are wired.in our attempt to figure out our ADHD, sometimes we are a combo of aloof then toxic seeking depending on what happened the time before! lol 😂

ADHD can be exhausting but ALL mental health n neuro problems n unresolved problems in general are exhausting… its not unique to us.

when we are are managing our ADHD well, and want to find a healthy partner who is managing their life well ( with whatever life threw at them- sanity is on a spectrum, lol) and thriving… then typically we are not functioning under premise that true love will be best with someone who has ADHD and assume that person will naturally just accept us, n understand us n enjoy us, bc we both have ADHD….

the desire for love n acceptance is universal. ❤️ good luck on your journey🍀