Hi all,
I'm new here and really searching for some ADD support. I don't have the money to see a therapist but I really need to.
Does anyone know of any free or economic ADD therapy options?
I am in Europe and I haven't found much online.
I'm 34 and a father. I have been in a relationship for 15 years which is now falling apart. I think it's largely to do with my ADD. I need to do something otherwise I am going to loose everything that matters to me.
Thanks for your help.
Ryan
Hiya Ryan,a few tips.checkout YouTube and similar,type in adhd and your choice of help and its bound to help some but try to do this on a daily basis to keep your mind in a better place.Also,download an app like insight timer that so many healing tips for all sorts,again if you do these exercises daily,they will hopefully help get your mind in a better place.On there,there's loads on wellbeing and the like.So many are free on Insight timer.Theres a couple of starters for you.Stick with it and gd luck.
Hii Ryan , some audio books really helped me couping with my emotions .
First one I read (listen actually) "smart but stuck" by thomas e. brown. That helped me to understand that adhd is not just about daily routine , timing .. but also emotions . When I realise that , checked some CBT audio books , like david burns "feeling good"
Hi Ryan, I am in the U.S., so I am not too familiar with the mental health system in Europe. However, for people that can't afford therapy, they can sometimes receive therapy services at local free health clinics. We also have mental health Graduate Students that will have a low or reduced rate for therapy services since they are working towards their licensure and are under the supervision of a licensed clinician. These are just some ideas that are based on services in the U.S., I wish I could be more helpful. Other than that you could try free mental health apps, meditation, exercise, journaling, art therapy, etc. to try and ground yourself when things seem overwhelming. I hope you are able to find some therapy services that are affordable and available to you, best of luck!
Hi Ryan, Glad you’ve reached out. Yes audio books are great especially for us ADHDers. I am just finishing ADHD 2.0 by Dr Ned Hollowell. He’s also got a podcast which is helpful too. I listen when I’m walking the dog or am alone doing something.Additionally, consider there may be another underlying issue which needs to be recognized and addressed. Many of us also deal with anxiety and or depression. Just as ADHD has different levels of severity so does the anxiety and depression. Having to cope with this is tough and many of us feel guilty or shame, so it’s really not uncommon to have one or both along with the ADHD.
I also have dyslexia that I’m fighting with all the time. I’m always rethinking things to make them work for me. So just be open to the fact that there could be another layer to your ADHD and this COULD be what is complicating things for you.
Look up ADHD in your podcasts Jessica McCabe has a fun outlook, and I like Dr Hollowels perspective. There are so many others have podcasts on the topic. I bounce around and listen to several. Sometimes I’m tired of one though don’t want to delete them, so I’ll just leave it for a while and get another perspective.
Start by listening to some books and sharing them with your partner. They need to understand what’s going on and why and know that it’s all good!
Now your even better because what you’ve found out there’s a name for the way your feeling and acting. Now figure out what works for YOU and doesn’t, then move forward.
One more thing…keep a journal. Pick up a spiral note book and jot things down daily. Just keep notes on what works, how something is going, even the little things like are you eating a healthy diet( that’s a major in pact), did you try a new schedule or were you late again for something. Write it down because in the beginning there’s a lot to take in. For these first couple years it’s a simple good routine. Obviously, keep the note books when you’ve filled it up, and pick up another when you’re getting to close to the end so you’re not without a journal. I wish I’d done it in the beginning. Though I am now.
Keep in touch, we’re all here for ya!
Your kind, and supportive suggestions for Ryan will benefit others here too!
This site has a lot of virtual support groups--and a ton of good information: add.org/adda-virtual-programs/
Hi Ryan Just read your letter. I to have been in relationships that have been destroyed by my ADD basically inattentive type… am in one that was again headed for the rocks, but didn’t. I talked with her to find out what “bugged “ her the most… one thing was I didn’t follow through with stuff…. So I changed my pattern, I would start saying…. “ am going to try … “ or I am going to start …. Don’t know when I will finish.”
Or I can try to …. But I can’t promise I will “
Once I started leaving an obvious loop hole out. Things got a little better, but if I had to promise I would do something, I made sure I did it… no matter how much I didn’t like or want to…. I keep repeating to myself…. “ I promised I would do this”. Maybe not the best or smartest fix but it worked for me now…
Oh I did keep a journal, it did help me remember what I promised and what was promised to me too.
Good Luck
I wanted to recommend “ADDitude Magazine”. You can read articles, see webinars, and download valuable information for free! That was the first place that I found.
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