Hi everyone
I've suffered with anxiety and depression for most my life now I've been diagnosed with adhd,I had a massive breakdown about 2 years ago and haven't worked since,I do have a supportive family but I feel like a massive letdown,I've always worked and supported my family now I'm just dragging them down
I have not worked since my breakdown, it took me a while to accept. But, YOU are more important than any job. Your job now is to take care of yourself.
It's been 2 years as well since my breakdown. And I know exactly the feeling you're talking about. While for the first 1-1.5 years I really struggled in staying, these last few months have really showed me reasons for living and staying around. I believe you'll find the same happens soon for you. I won't lie and say it'll just magically get better one day, but these periods where you finally feel like you can breathe are so wonderful. So please, just hold in there, you'll find your happy place soon enough
It will get better…I promise! Just never, ever, ever give up! Your family is there for a reason. Let them be your inspiration to get well! If you need to…there will always tomorrow to start over! God bless! 🙏
Thankyou all for your replys it means alot,I know alot of people Go though this but when your going through it yourself it feels like your the only one and feels like your going mad and think you will never be normal again,you have a few good days and it's great then when you have a bad day I just remember how bad I was and I never want that again
We all have to manage our ADHD. Having ADHD requires some effort however the pros do out weigh the cons. Managing your ADHD can seem daunting. Managing by making and keeping a schedule which includes: nutrition, exercise, Appointments, Have to dos, want to dos, friends, medications, et al. It is not glamorous however necessary, keeping the promises that you make to yourself Is extremely important for your self esteem. Life does not get harder If you manage your ADHD. Loving yourself enough to manage your ADHD is the hard part. You will find that having ADHD is really a blessing once you find your superpower(s), we all have them. Finding what yours is, is the challenge. The more you manage the better you will feel. Start out slowly and Praise yourself for every completed task. It does wonders! Whenever I forget where something is, I let it go for awhile and then I remember and I thank and praise myself for remembering. You can do it, you just need a little encouragement by knowing how many other people are feeling the way you do and are managing to live fun, productive lives. If I can do it you can also. We may have to struggle but the rewards are great! Many hugs
I hadn't worked in 4 years after a layoff caused adjustment disorder. I have bipolar and adhd. That job lasted one month due to covid, but in all the time not being employed, I learned a lot about my condition that has helped me turn around, wanting to work. A blessing in disguise I guess. Plus it led me to a better doctor and finally a regimen of meds that works. It may take a while, but hang in there. I have been lower than low and somehow managed to go from 4 years bedridden to wanting to live life again. Take care and stay safe.
Hi, I just wanted to share a little of what I’ve watched my husband go through. He’s 52 and we’ve been together for almost 28 yrs. I’ve watched him deal with drug and alcohol addictions through the first years we were together. He gave them both up on his own and hasn’t looked back, but had always picked up new ones along the way. He has fought with gaming, sex addiction and impulsive purchases of big expensive things. He’s been in therapy for the first time in his life since last June. Also, recently diagnosed with ADHD. He has had depression and anxiety all his life and has been on meds for that since last year. They started him last year on ADHD meds and he has tried several and has not had much luck so far with them. Most of them will only give him focus for a few weeks and then he barely gets any focus. They now believe he has sleep apnea and this could be the cause of the issues he’s had. He also has told me a few months ago about an incident of trauma in his childhood which he hasn’t even began to address. He doesn’t talk about his feelings or emotions as he was raised that way. He grew up in a dysfunctional family of drinking and lack of emotional connections, which I have seen impact him more now in the present. He has always been a hard and responsible worker and to my knowledge didn’t have issues with work through the years. I’ve seen him unravel over the past 10 yrs so much. He has no interest in anything, no motivation, no passion. Our one therapist has told us when you let the depression go untreated it escalates and causes more damage, as well as the addictions. I also want to add that the therapist stated the depression and anxiety needs to be treated separately in conjunction with the ADHD. The ADHD can cause these symptoms and ADD meds can help some with them, but his were to severe. Please research and read if you can about these, or they have podcasts as well I think. He has read a little, but I have found a lot of information within some of the articles on the web and ADD forums. I hope this will help a little and wish you all the best with treatment and balancing your daily struggles. If I can help in any other way please reach out to me.
I graduated 2 years ago and have only worked two months as a freelancer before really falling into falling in the ADHD "pit of doom" that I was actually already dangling in with one leg. Getting into fights more and more with my partner (who has ADHD as well but a different version as mine and he is functioning well without too many struggles), my parents and friends not understanding exactly why I can't seem to work, and me being angry that I haven't taken my diagnosis serious enough (was already diagnosed around 10), made me feel so useless and invalidated and like a failure all at the same time.
My partner and I have managed to patch things up to the point we're functioning due to trying to better our communication and without grudges and bad fights, my friends understand me now, and my parents are a lot more understanding as well. This took me a lot of energy and talking, and researching and more talking, explaining what I need and asking for patience.
This patience is what I need to have with myself as well, which is hard! ADHD makes me want to go fast and get to the good results already, but I also know I can't rush this. I'm trying to find the right medication at the moment, I'm still not done looking for the right tools to help me, and I'm going to therapy after I find the right meds.
We're not unable to reach our dreams, we just need more time, patience and extra help from friends, family, therapy and/or medication!
Thankyou for all you support and sharing your struggles,I hope I can get back to that happy place again,just been signed off again by the NHS wellbeing team they said they only specialise in general depression and anxiety so can't help me and referred me back to my gp,just another kick in the gut,all the TV and radio adverts saying just call this number we will help don't struggle on your own,then when you reach out to them they leave you feeling worse now I just feel like a lost corse that's never going to feel happy again
How ya doing Frenchy1292 ? I can relate very much to what it sounds like you've been going through, needing to stop working for almost half of 2021 but trying to work through shame (mainly my own imagination causing it) that I feel by not working. I had a major mental meltdown going into the second half of a one year grad school program and for a while, it only got worse I felt. Stopped drinking any alcohol so I could try depression and anxiety meds, and now two years later I was diagnosed at age 31 with ADHD.
There is definitely knowledge in power, basically learning more and more about this condition can be somewhat therapeutic. It's not you, it's this thing, ADHD. From what I've learned, everyone experiences it differently, but your experience is real and valid. The fact that you came to find support in a support group shows you're doing the right things to help yourself.
I hope you're doing well, keep your head up. It will get better. 
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Any advice on how to get diagnosed in UK
Ready to move on from this job to a better one 
Changed my meds for the better
Trouble Getting a Diagnosis
Are there any RN's on here with ADD?
