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How to get up my nerve to ask friends to hang out

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Hi everyone, today one of my close friends asked me to hang out with her. I accepted, but then I realized that I should ask my friends to hang out more often. It’s just I feel shy and awkward and I don’t often know what I want to do. I feel like my suggestions would be boring. I have asked friends to hang out, but it’s when my parents encourage me. How do I get over this block of feeling awkward?

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RollingThunder

Hello Annegables124,What I do, is have a tea or luncheon and invite 6-8 people, they all intermingle with each other and I can float around to different conversations. This way, I can find the friends that are most interesting and fun! Everyone has a good time and I usually get reciprocal invitations. Cull a few people from different groups I.e. church, school, music, dancing.

Then the hard part comes when you have to keep up the relationships. I put them on my calendar to contact two friends a day, 5 days a week. I have made some wonderful new friends this way, keeping them takes work and a reminder on your calendar. I feel like I have nothing to give in the way of conversation, but a lot of people just need someone else to listen, I am a good listener and then I feel comfortable to add in a few of my own ideas. You will have to find a way that works for you. You do nothing you get nothing. No pain, no gain. Hugs 🤗

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Thanks for responding. 😊

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horsegirl08

Hello! I know what you mean. Maybe try some of these: - Hey, I'm heading out to Target (or another store), want to tag along?

- I'm thinking about renting XYZ movie on Amazon, come join me if you're free.

- I'm dying for a Wendy's frosty, let's go!

- Ask a friend, are you up for a road trip? Then choose some destination.

- what are you up to today? I'm bored and am looking for something to do. Maybe your friend will have a suggestion for something two of you can do...

Hope that helps good luck!

in reply tohorsegirl08

Thanks. Those were really great ideas. 🙂

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