Has anyone ever tried video taping their home and allowing arguments to go on record?

[Alansees-Alandoes]

Hello everyone! for couples struggling with volatility when they are getting into arguments and stressful or heated situations that become damaging, has anyone tried recording them. One of the biggest hurdles for us ADHDers is bridging the gap between how we feel and what we say in response to those feelings, and their future consequences or the scars they can leave.

[SunnySmol]

I've considered doing this in the past but have never tried it. My biggest issue is forgetting what has been said or how a sequence of events happened. It is very difficult to me to retain why I'm upset and what actually happened that upset me, and over the course of a conversation or argument, the longer it goes, the more I lose. It's extremely disturbing to experience. Having a camera might help me be able to look back and see what actually happened when I begin to forget. I'm still considering it though. It wouldn't just be up to me as well, I'd have to talk to everyone else in my house about it and I'm not sure I want to do that.

[Alansees-Alandoes in reply to SunnySmol]

Well maybe coming at it from a point of it would help you be better for them would lighten the load for you feeling like you are putting them out. And I wish I could have done this before it was too late because I now feel like nothing was worth fighting over because I lost the companionship of someone I love.

[Neurolancer]

I've recorded a couple of situations, audio only. A handful of times I've recorded my ADHD son throwing an off-the-charts tantrum so that he could hear what he sounded like. This made him terribly angry, but at the same time, he was so embarrassed by his behavior that he stopped his behavior.

The second situation I've recorded is an argument with my son. It went from a frusterated conversation to name-calling and outrageous claims about who said what. What I found was that, when the recording was happening, we were both more conscientious about what we were saying -- we were thinking more before we were speaking. And when you and other people hear yourselves/themselves losing it, it's very instructional and little embarrassing.

My point is that just the mere fact of recording a situation can make the situation more in-control -- I would recommend trying it for that benefit alone. And just the audio is plenty and it's easier and less obstrusive than filming.

Good luck!

[Alansees-Alandoes in reply to Neurolancer]

Agree on the filming thing. I guess i was just thinking filming might be more commonly there already because so many of my friends have cameras for pets and various other reasons like kids. But they are usually only set to monitor.