Blunt

[kkonzen15]

So, having had ADHD for over 10 years, the one thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I’m blunt when talking to people. Does anyone else deal with that?

[positivepassenger]

Yes. Absolutely!

I struggle with interrupting, not fully engaging in the conversation/not fully listening too... I have been told in the past that I came off rude or negative when I did not mean to so...

I have been actively working on my communication style for the past few years in an effort to help build better relationships overall but it has been a journey! I was diagnosed in 2009 and didn't really start doing the "hard work" as I call it-- The self reflection, self improvement therapy etc. until 2017 so... Yeah.. I can definitely relate! I will say that setting my ego aside and really taking the time to slow down and have meaningful conversations instead of taking the "speedy fix" route has been beneficial in my relationships... I used to have colleagues tell me that I was short with them when I was just focused on results versus the human connection aspect.. I will say I am much happier slowing down and really getting to know people, it has been a fulfilling adjustment... humbling and a lot of work but.. absolutely worth it!

[kkonzen15 in reply to positivepassenger]

me too!

[GB-Brave]

I totally struggle with being too blunt. I'm awfully bad at making people feel good. If someone asks for my opinion it's usually blunt and straight to the point. Only my closest friends understand that I'm no harm and that I'm just being myself.

[Tweetyb830]

This is definitely a major problem for me. I've been trying different medications in hopes it will slow down my thought to mouth, but still bit of a problem. Just diagnosed 1 year ago at 54 and on no other meds, and i'm still waiting for the aha miracle.

[gphill56 in reply to Tweetyb830]

Straterra (generic) helped me with this. It gives me just enough time to avoid putting my foot in my mouth and inadvertently hurting someone's feelings or insulting them.

[gphill56]

Oh yeah. I frequently went the snide or sarcastic route in my responses, definitely one serious step further than you. In my situation, it was more often a case of blurting something out before I could restrain myself, frequently hurting others feelings. In my case, medication helped me by giving me just enough time to STOP before saying many of the comments i used to make (and only sometimes realize how mean it came across).

[kkonzen15 in reply to gphill56]

Me too when I first got diagnosed