ADHD Adult with work relationship problems

[Squirmy32]

Hi I'm new here. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was two years old. I've been on medications for years. I'm currently on Adderall 30mg and it works very well for me but I've noticed that all throughout my adult life I've had a few problems at work.. mainly with relationships/conversing with co-workers and making sure I stay appropriate with anything that I say. I hate that I have to watch everything that I say and make sure I don't offend anybody. My biggest issue with each job I've held over the years is finding a nice balance of doing my designated tasks but also having good working relationships with others. I often feel like when my medication starts to wear off I get very talkative and might be too much for a co-worker to handle. I just need some advice on how to handle work relationships, communicating appropriately with others and not saying too much to upset or offend anyone.

this has been an ongoing problem for me.. I'll be able to get along well with alot of people but then there is always 1-2 people who I have problems with. I don't ever always understand the reasoning behind not getting along with these select few individuals

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Maybe it isn't the relationship aspect you need to be focused on. The relationship aspect is more of a product of your ADHD. Your ability to slow down, process your thoughts, emotions and then act on them is contingent on how much control you have of your ADHD. We use medication to help control the symptoms of ADHD and therefore give us control over our own bodies. So why not tackle the ADHD symptoms more aggressively? Have you considered changing medication? For example, I took Adderall for about two weeks before I could transition to Vyvanse. The Adderall was short-acting (4 hours) and left me with withdrawals that I did not like. Vyvanse is much like Adderall but without the negative withdrawal symptoms and is extended release.

So my advise is to change your medication. Also, you should be using extended release medications. Short-acting medication is undependable in my opinion. It wears off in times you need it not too. It doesn't provide the consistency you need in an adult life style.

I am not an expert and all I can provide is my experienced opinion.

Good luck!

Note: If Vyvanse is not covered by your health insurance than you can use a financial support program through the manufacturer to get the cost reduced or completely covered depending on your income level.

[nedkubda]

It could be medication as mentioned previous. however, keep in mind that sometimes we ultimately are always going to find that we cant please everyone. There are people that wont like us no matter what we do or say—just look at political climate—people are divided over MASKS. If the decision to abided by a public health measure is decisive, there is no way we can please every one. If you are saying something mean, unprofessional, that is one thing—but we all make mistakes . Dale Carnegie “how to win friends and influence people” as well as Steve Coveys “7 habits “ can be helpful “... but in the end, recognize that sometimes no mattee what you say—people are offended (people are offended by be asked to wash hands and wear a mask with current pandemic)

[The1Path]

I know I get overly chatty sometimes and other times I can overshare as part of my ADHD. I had to put up PostIts with positive statements at home to remind me to slow down and not overwhelm people. I also make a huge effort to watch my mouth when i want to say something critical at work or swear when I get frustrated - that kind of thing can be very problematic. And as someone said, you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea but even people without ADHD aren’t either.