Social Services Child Protection plan

[Stace268]

Hello,

I have a difficult situation I was in an abusive relationship for about a year and the harassment and intimidation has carried on for over 10 years.

My son has been diagnosed with autism and is awaiting ADHD assessment though the school, GP, Single Point of advice, peadtrician all made it extremely difficult to get a referral to the CHAMHS clinic as I believe they did not want to recognise it and or treat it because of either complexities with my sons health or deterring applying for ECHP.

Due to the lack of support and abuse from Ex partner I have developed PTSD and the care in need plan was not being carried out as me and peadiatrics agreed to escalate the process due to my anxiety and difficulty with my sons behaviour (not to mention how unfair it is on him) now my ex partner is trying to take custody of my son saying I am an unfit mother because I have lost my tether and shouted at my son in school and because on several occasions I had to push for tests which discovered my son is anemic and that he had a raised TSH ( I am hypothyroid) I have been since my early twenties and also had anemia as a child. None of the professionals took me seriously even when I said my son getting continuously dizzy pale and out of breath. He now has intermittent chest pains but they deny any thyoid problem as each tests were not done under the right conditions only one TSH was raised though I have been diagnosed with hypothyroidism years ago. There are also heart problems in my family.

So because I have argued my concerns with health professionals and the PTSD and slow unsupported/untreated health problems of me and my son they are putting me forward for a child protection plan even though I was not given any early help or any strategies given on the child in need plan.

This seems incredibly unfair to me and has anyone else experienced this?

Many thanks

[AddyVenture]

I have not experienced exactly what you have described but very similar. My family of origin is just generation after generation of abuse. I didn’t realize how bad it was until at age 40 I had my 3rd son, after a 20 year gap. I had no idea his dad had already been diagnosed as a sociopath years before. By the time I found that paperwork, I had figured it out myself. My son has ADHD, PTSD, and most likely ASD. I have the sesame diagnoses. We were in Utah for three years, which was a nightmare. The entire system and society. They’re basically enabled my ex to abuse us and blamed me. I finally became suicidal and A friend I’ve known for 35 years came and rescued my son and me. He brought us to New Mexico, and suites been pretty much on our own hair, but it turns out that thing away from the abuse, and being away from my beautiful family actually made things better. Being alone has been better than having a bunch of victim blamers saying I’m the problem. We came to New Mexico, which has a terrible track record for distance, but for us, life-saving… I was able to get diagnosed for both my son and me. We were able to get stable housing. We were able to get protective orders. And the people here actually understand PTSD. What you’re saying really resonates with me. I’m certain that your biggest challenges PTSD, and the only way to really over, is to get away from the source. I don’t know if relocating is a possibility for you, but for me, it was key.

[Stace268 in reply to AddyVenture]

They've put a prohibited order for me not allowed to move school or location without a court order but I don't really want to move. Social services were giving early help then because a peadiatrician said I did not destract my son from playing with water and getting wet and was going on about my sons symptoms to the peadiatrician they think my sons at risk or significant emotional harm?! Makes no sense to me at all and everyone I've explained it to. Its SS and the court guardian who seems to be trying to make me look like a monster for wanting my son correctly diagnosed and treated. Yes PTSD is from 10 years of coercive abuse of ex partner gaslighting me and everyone else about my mental health. Pure garbage.