The importance of positive comments

[Onthemove1971]

Today during a thearpy session our therapist told our son that he is impressed with how well he has done.

Looking back at how things were during middle school and how much better things are now. He told our son that he uses him ( without giving his name) as a positive role model to other children that are struggling.

I realized how much our son needs that positive feedback. I tell him positive things all the time, but I am his mom.

I don't think they hear from other people they are amazing enough.

Just wanted to share that...

[Shamasamdrew]

First of all, I think that is wonderful and you must be so proud. So nice of your therapist to think to give him that boost and believe in him so strongly to make him an example to others.

I also believe in the power of positivity especially for our kids. If it is true that they receive 20,000 more negative and corrective messages before the age of 12, I think the power of positive is that much more amplified.

So happy for you and your boy. Hope things continue!!

[Redpanda5]

This is heartwarming! Thank yo so much for sharing!

[RichSeitzOceanNJ]

Atta-boys are pretty common as a parent and often don't have as much impact as we wish. To increase the effect, give a written compliment and post it on the wall or fridge or door of his/her room. Look up Tootles or Pax Notes. Have a place where you collect the Tootles (opposite of a tattle) and save them . Post new ones as they occur. They don't have to be just behavior notes. " I like the shirt and pants you chose for school today." thank you for taking out the garbage. That was a big help." See Pax Tools for Parents on You Tube.Pax Tools intro

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