Hello. I am struggling with my adult son who doesn't have a willingness to make his ADD life better. He barely graduated high school but went to college to study music which was his passion (He is a cellist) but the freshman year was not successful. He failed almost all classes besides what he enjoyed which are cello performance related classes. He came home and started local community college to get AA. He keeps failing and still far away to finish.
I recently found out that he hasn't been seeing many (or almost all) appointments related to take care of his ADD and support academic struggles. He was lying to my husband and I that he was making and keeping these appointments! Medical doctors/counselors, medications, accademic counselors and support system in college, tips and ideas that I shared as books or articles... he does not think these are necessary or just doesn't want to take it and/or face it.
He has no concept of handling money. He has very small income from a part time job. I need to teach him how to spend and save like to 5 years old. He doesn't know what he wants to do after he finish AA (he thinks it will take a long time so no rush...)
Yes, he is called adult legally but MOM is not ok to see him being ok to be dependent until HE feels ready.
My other struggle is I can not agree how to guide our son with my husband. (I am guessing he has ADD also...)
I heard about life coaching for ADHDers . I heard about counseling as a family so we can all be on the same page. I search and seek the help and solution but I feel so stuck and don't know where to go, how to start...
Sorry for the long post as a new comer. Thank you for reading this. I hope some of you will share your experience and wisdom. Thank you.