Concurned parent

[Nikkip87]

Hi my name is Nikki I have 2 kids my son daejon5 my daughter honesti11. My kids are my everything. My daughter was diagnose with adhd/Add 3 years ago its been very hard one minute she doing good on the meds next its downhill. From begin disrespectful rude mean to crying all the time also getting in trouble in school. When i say it's hard I mean for me I feel like I'm fussing all day everyday and I'm begin mean to my daughter all the time because she'sgetting into trouble all the time. And I try to put myself in her situation and remember she is battling a mental illness everyday. But at the same time you know right from wrong.with me joing this group I h9pe it helps me too get some insight on what too do.

[Lauraburke]

I feel the same way with my son, he has adhd and odd, he has been so mean and spiteful to people expecially me. I don’t understand it’s like the harder you try it makes it worse with him. I keep him involved in sports to try to help with focus and trying to keep his mind busy. I cry almost daily I feel like I’m failing him. I also need some suggestions on how to deal with the behaviors. It’s so difficult on our family. I love him so much and I hate seeing him go through this. Have you had your daughter see a child psychologist or a counselor? I need to get my son into counseling again. I hope you can find something that helps. If anyone with similar situations can give some insight to nikkip87 and myself it would be helpful. Thanks.

[kuntz2boys]

I have been having a lot of issues with my 14 year old son too. He is so defiant, doesn't do his homework, gets in trouble at school, yells and argues with me all the time, causes so much chaos and tension in the house, and doesn't take responsibility for anything. I feel like I put more energy into things than he does. A woman on here replied to my post and sent me a link to an article she wrote about putting in more effort than your child does. My post talked about how I feel like I am wasting unnecessary energy, trying to get him to do things that I want him to do. I have been trying to force him to see the importance of behaving a certain way. The more I push, the more he pushes back. It is counterproductive. I am brand new to this site so I am not sure if you can follow me and click on the link she added to her reply on my post, but just reading it gave me a little hope. Also, I have been looking into parenting with love and logic. They have love and logic classes in my area and I start in a few week. I'm hoping that will teach me new ways of raising my child in a more productive and effective way. Children with ADHD are definitely not easy to raise! I feel you girl!

[M2HB]

I've been reading and have been told that children may need a medication adjustment every few years because their chemistry changes as they grow. Maybe time to see the doc again and adjust the medicine? Meditation might also help you with the frustration of dealing with her difficulties as well. Sometimes it's hard in the moment but if you try to keep it in the front of your mind that you are here to guide her the best you can without getting mad at her for things she can not help, you might not get as frustrated with her. Also, have you considered an adhd coach? I've just found out about them myself and highly thinking of using one. I think the CHADD website has some resources to find one in your area but I'm sure you can Google it too.

[lbayley]

Although they may know right from wrong, what ADHD kids struggle with is impulse control—that little voice between an idea in your head and the execution of the idea that tells you to stop. They also struggle with emotional dysregulation so if they are feeling frustrated or angry, they can get overwhelmed and have trouble keeping their behavior in check. You will have more impact on their behavior—and possibly more patience—if you approach things from those two angles rather than a right/wrong angle. There is much good information on the internet right now. Both Russell Barclay and Ed Hallowell have good insights and information. My 9 year old ADHD girl also loves the YouTube channel “How to ADHD”. We have both learned much from that in a really fun format. Good luck and hang in there, Mama—parenting is challenging anyway, but an ADHD child puts extra challenge into the mix! She’s lucky she has a parent like you who is so in tune to what she’s doing!

[Jules1121]

Oh my you sound like me she is the same as my child she is 11 as well. I a mean and fussing because of the problems she us having at school it is so hard to call down during these times I've taking everything away tv,phone,added chores she needs new close don't take her shopping she us talk and going yo school with flood pants. Iknjiw how you feel I'm there nothing is working. Changing her dosage in a week yo see if that might help she is in vyvanse which worked so well for years. My daughter was an honor roll students and now bringing home f's please hang in there your not alone

[willandgrace]

Find Dr Ned Hallowell on YouTube He is leading expert in this field and HAS ADHD He gives GREAT insight. And he’s very positive. He’s brilliant and successful. You will learn how to help your kids