I am struggling with friends who have neurotypical children not understanding all that is involved with ADHD. My daughter has ADHD, but isn't overly hyper--therefore all my friends constantly comment that she is not ADHD and I am crazy to believe it.
I try to explain that she struggles to focus, listen and follow key directions and that just because she isn't a behavior problem or bouncing off the walls that it doesn't mean she doesn't have it. They will also constantly refer to how focused she is on things that interest her and say that it is just normal for kids to not focus on school work or sports lessons.
My very best friend told me that she just thinks the doctors are wrong about my daughter... I finally said, "look, my child has impulse issues that can't be controlled without medication.. like touching herself in public or chewing on things." Still, she didn't believe that they can't be controlled-- that I should just tell her to stop and eventually she will listen. Like, I have never told my 7 year old to stop touching herself in public!!! of course I have told her over and over to stop!
It is so hard sometimes.