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[eismueller3]

We have just discovered, with the help and assessment of a Neuropsychologist, that our son, ( my stepson ), has dyslexia and ADHD. I have known this wonderful 11-yr old, "Ben", and his dad for 4 years. His dad and I just recently married and this young man is in our care 24/7. His biological mom visits with him once a month or so. All has been well. I noticed a difference in "Ben" right away, he was 7 when I came into his life. I have 4 children of my own, so I've been through the stages of childhood and was able to detect a difference in "Ben". Up until now, I think his dad was in denial that there was anything wrong, but I knew. I wanted "Ben" to have an assessment, and sure enough..he was diagnosed just his past January with the Dyslexia and ADHD. He has such odd characteristics, can't remember the names of common objects; ie, "strawberry" or "mailbox"..he will have to describe what it is he is talking about because he can't remember the name of it. Or schoolwork? forget about it...such a struggle. He is so different from my other children that I am finding it difficult to deal with. Because this is such a new diagnosis, I know it will take time to sort it out, just looking for some insight as to how I go about getting help for me? I want "Ben" to succeed but I need help in knowing how to deal with his oddities Therapy? Medication? which is the best route? We live on a budget and money may become an issue if we have to pay for therapy..I'm looking for some response with some veteran moms that are working through this as well. My kids come first and above all and I want nothing but the best

thanks for reading!

[Pajamasam36]

I am glad to hear you are finding support for yourself. As I lay him bed at 2 in the morning unable to sleep for concerns for my own son who is 14 Years Old. This journey is a lifetime journey. I am expecting it will change after high school when we no longer have to work with IEP teams.

Does your son have an IEP? It is is probably the first step that must be taken if he dosent. An IEP has been the only thing that is protecting our son from adult school bullies. Yes I said adult. My son has a Neuropsyc. Evaluation stating he has ADHD, Tourettes (coprolialia) the shout-out type. Anxiety disorder, and recent diagnosis of ODD (oppositional defiance disorder) Fetal alcohol syndrome and central nervous disorder.we adopted him when he was 3 days old. He had an Autism, ADHD, Anxiety disorder and Tourette (copralialia) diagnosis for 5 years until we received a new evaluation. We are in the middle of seeking legal council for discrimination and retaliation from my sons own IEP team! It is heart breaking thus I am awake most mornings at two am with a stomach ulcer. I am glad you are seeking support for yourself. My biggest peice of advice is get an IEP if you don’t have one. Once I know weather you have one I will formulate what I would do next to support your self and your son! It’s a long journey and your hormone years are just beginning which changes behaviors immensely. I will stay tuned to hear your response.

[Cjkchamp]

Good job helping your family! Now that you have an evaluation make contact with your school and see what resources they can offer you. Then check with your insurance for what is available like occupational therapy or any kind of therapy. I am limited on income as well and it can get pricey between copays for appts and medications. Depending on your income you may also qualify for free or sliding scale fee services. You can also check to see if there are any studies going on in you area surrounding kids with ADHD. Good luck!!!

[Coach4ADD]

Welcome Newbie,

There are many online sites with information and free resources. I recommend understood.org and chadd.org

I suggest you request a conference with your child’s teacher to share the diagnosis and discuss intervention and support options. Children with learning disabilities and other health impairments qualify for an individualized education plan. (IEP) The school counselor or psychologist may be aware of low cost treatment options in your area. Medication can help, but is not a cure. In addition to medication, children and adults typically need help to learn strategies and skills to manage their symptoms.

I commend you for trying to learn how to best support your child. Unfortunately, many adults punish children for not focusing and failing grades which only makes things worse. Children and adults can be successful with treatment, understanding and support. Best wishes!

[AngelamarieQ]

Most kids with ADHD need a team approach: school accommodations, a therapist, a good routine at home and meds.

The brain is suppressed in chemicals; thus, imbalance.

Meds and school accommodations are the fastest routes and the cheapest too. However, I think cognitive behavioral therapy is a must approach. See what you can do. Good luck!

[MustangMom]

I have a 17 year old high school junior son that is dyslexic and inattentive add. This year has been the biggest struggle since he was diagnosed in 4th grade. I’m at the school having meetings with teachers and emailing. He is in counseling as well. He has decided that having fun and hanging with friends is easier. My point is not to scare you...sorry!...my point is to make sure he is getting the tools he needs to effectively handle school. Be vocal with teachers. Ask questions. I think I took for granted my son was getting all this until this year. You will battle with his lack of self esteem too, be prepared for that as he grows older. The best part of this situation is that he is now getting the attention needed to be successful! Good job mom.