Not yet diagnosed

[AddisMommy]

I have a beautiful 4yo little girl. She just recently started pre-k and is having some issues. I've noticed for awhile now that she has trouble following directions, sitting still, completing tasks and has out bursts of rage when upset. I dont know if I just didnt want to except the fact something could be "wrong" or if I thought maybe it was my fault as if I failed her as a parent so I haven't went to a doctor yet. Since she started school it has been a constant bad report sent home "did not listen during instruction" "was laying on the floor during instruction" "lost all playtime due to not following direction or paying attention" things along those lines. My heart is broken for her because I know she does not like being in trouble or missing out on fun activities I just dont know how to help. I scheduled an appointment to have her evaluated. I just want her to be happy and get to experience the joys of going to school and not think she is different or feel upset that she is always in trouble. Shes an amazing little girl and so so smart!!! How can i help her cope? What can I as a parent do to help her? What do I need to understand so I can better help her. I'm at a lose right now!!!

[MarySI]

I feel for your daughter and I know how it feels when you just can't help but getting into trouble but just know that it isn't your fault at all and it's just a way of the adhd making sure it gets noticed. The adhd brain always wants some kind of stimulation which is why people with adhd tend to get bored easily especially in the classroom environment because......well it's boring. Mabey you could help her find something she loves like a newly found hobby and then help her get good at it and it just might give her something to look forward to after a good day at school.

Hope this helped❤❤

[MomOfAMermaid]

I could have written your post 2 years ago when my daughter started pre-k at age 4. (1) it is not your fault - thinking it is or self-blame will only keep you from moving forward (2) good for you to get her evaluated! You are courageous! (3) tell her to do her best - because her best is good enough while you get the evaluation results. (4) ask the teacher to show some compassion - behavior modification does not work if a child does not have the ability to process the instructions (5) look into positive discipline (6) my daughter also has sensory processing challenges - look into it and see if this maybe a possibility too. We spend major $$ on holistic strategies. Let me know what other info so can share. My e-mail is [e-mail] and my name is Krista

[ashjav2001]

My son just started Pre-K and is having the same issues! Everyday the teacher calls me either to pick him up or tell me he has hit her or another student. He has become violent and I am not sure why. He is very fidgety and I can tell whenever a woman or child gets close to him he scratches or hits them!!! But never does this with my husband or any other males. I have tried every natural product you could think of and it seems not to last long. He is being screened the end of this month. I just want to know what he is diagnosed with so we can try to help him be a successful caring person. I cry everyday about this and I pray to the Lord that he is healed. May God be with all of you and your children!

[Eliza2013]

My four year was just diagnosed and has the same issues. We started taking her to a behavioral therapist which was very helpful. We try to teach her coping mechanisms when she starts to feel angry mad or frustrated. We call these feelings her “worries”. We taught her color breathing which is big breaths , but hey choose a color the love and breathe that color in and then slowly blow out a color they don’t like. My daughter chose pink and black. That seems to help.

We also try to learn what is going to set her off and distract before that happens. She likes to be in control so we give her choices instead of always demanding. She has a hard time with transitions so we try to do a better idea of giving her an explanation of what will happen next and how much time before that happens.

We also started her on 509mg of fish oil and I see a difference

Also PRAISE FOR EVERYTHING. every time she does something u like - eye contact, listening etc tell her she’s doing a good job

I also recommend the book the explosive child.