I suffer from depression my other half currently really ill bit on week 4 of a depressive downer where he shots off goes to work then locks himself away in his flat . Takes upto a week of callls and messaging to get him to click on his brain and then come back to earth and resume contact . Don is a trigger for him I know his traits on stress and depression . Yesterday after rushed to hospital and me calling and texting he tells me I shouldn’t say i love him while he has all his demons . I never judge him always tell him I’m happy to climb in the black tunnel and wait with him till he is ready to come up. I never try to fix him or say what’s wrong as we know it means nothing and helps no one . BUT how do I ask about his demons I’m sure it’s from the ex who was nasty . Brutal and abusive but I think there is more to it how do you get to know and understand someone’s demons . The I want to hang myself I can get him out of that feeling and he knows I’m there and he says I’m the only one who has ever cared and wanted him for who he is . He won’t show affection or rarely tells me so I know he means it when he does. But yeah it’s hard to not feel upset .I mean nothing and crawl back under a rock .I feel if I knew how to approach the demons in his head we could try and help alittle . Like I give him one job go have a shower and I wash up . Or I clean the flat so it’s doesmt get too much for him .