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I've just been diagnosed with depression. Three years ago I miscarried my first child very early on into my pregnancy. The miscarriage was very upsetting for me and my husband. We now have a two year old son but I still carry around the guilt and the heartbreak of losing our first child. There were no reasons or medical reasons for the loss but three years later I am still struggling to come to terms with the loss.

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Hello etaylor32,

First of all can I welcome you to our friendly and supportive Community.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your first child. Miscarriage is a bereavement and heartbreaking at any stage of pregnancy.

Feelings of guilt are quite normal when you are grieving but you may have unresolved feelings of guilt being Mum-to-be.

I am not sure that you will ever come to terms with your loss but in time I hope you will learn to live with your loss.

Have you thought about counselling to get some support and talk about any unresolved 'issues' you may have. If you feel this may be of benefit then I am sure your GP can refer you. There may be a wait as counselling services are in demand.

It sounds like you and your husband are very supportive to one another. I am so pleased you have a son, now 2 years old but you will always feel the loss of your first child. Be kind to yourself and take one day at a time.

We do have a Bereavement Care and Share Community and I believe that would perhaps be a more suitable Community for you. We are always here to support you, take good care,

Lottie x


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