I have been separated from my wife for just over 14 months when she left me for a work colleague after cheating 3 other times I know of. We were together 24 of which 10 of them married. I have struggled to cope and have been diagnosed with depression and given Citalopram. I can manage to put her out of my mind during the day as I can distract myself but my unconscious mind I have no control over and very often wake up in tears from dreams that upset me. The problem is it then puts me on a downer for the rest of the day!