Dieting...again

[scaryadders]

Hi I’m trying to lose weight again but struggle with willpower- does anybody have any tips please. I’ve tried so many diets - do you guys meal plan and how do you track your daily calories please

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Hi and welcome, scaryadders

It's time to ditch the dieting and to find a healthy and sustainable lifestyle. This whole forum is choc-a-bloc with information and events designed to help you achieve your goals. All you have to do is read, join in and become part of the mutual support

Follow this link to our chat thread and a list of all the activities we run. We've found active participation to be key to success, especially with our weigh-ins and Daily Diary.

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To make navigating the forum easier, we've put all the information you'll need in a newbie pack and here's the link

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Please take the time to read it carefully, so that you're able to enjoy everything that we have on offer.

We ask that you also read this important information about internet privacy and security, especially as you appear to have used your full name.

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Wishing you all the best

[scaryadders in reply to moreless]

Username changed, thank you for your advice

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to scaryadders]

I'm so pleased to see that! I shall edit out your name in my response

[Tiggerr]

Hi scaryadders and welcome.

Once you've read the information that the admins will give you, you may be relieved to find that willpower doesn't have much to do with it. In essence, we have been told for a long time now to eat the wrong things. In essence, things that just make us want to eat more of them.

Like any good story it's more complicated than that but if you can take the time to read through the links that an administrator is going to supply you, then it will help you decide which way forward may be the best for you.

Ask as many questions as you want as this forum is full of very friendly, helpful and knowledgeable people.

Best of luck!

EDIT: They already have replied

Original name edited by Admin.

[Tiggerr in reply to Tiggerr]

I'm reading through those responses scaryadders (including mine) and at first read it may all seem a bit intense. My suggestion for now would be to take your time, read a bit when you can and perhaps change a bit here and a bit there and let those few changes become part of your normal day to day life. Not all of us are keen on changing everything at once but as long as we are taking steps in a healthy direction then that will help us.

[Elisabeth3 Maintainer in reply to Tiggerr]

That's a followable thinking.

Unlikely to change a lot at once.

So, changing a little at a time is more sustainable.

[Tiggerr in reply to Elisabeth3]

Some people can pile right in and make huge changes at once which is good but that doesn't work for all of us

For me it's now taken about 30 months and I'm still on a journey. That doesn't mean 30 months wasted, as I've learnt a lot and at every step of the way, I've been healthier than when I first started.

[Elisabeth3 Maintainer in reply to Tiggerr]

I think there are very few people who make huge changes and keep them.

There are a lot who do make the changes and with the same intensity do swing back.

You do well over the 30 months. It is a learning path, and no minute of it is a waste. You have to go through those milestones. Keep up the good job.

[Tiggerr in reply to Elisabeth3]

Hopefully not everyone has to make some of the backward steps that I've made

[Elisabeth3 Maintainer in reply to Tiggerr]

Lapses are just normal. Just don't give up. (I know you won't. 😉)

[Elisabeth3 Maintainer]

Hi scaryadders. Welcome on the forum. An Administrator will officially welcome you soon.

If you have tried many different diets and have yo-yoed back, you may think that you would never succeed. You will, though, but may have to dig deeper.

Some do meal planning or calorie counting. But they are only tools to your weight management.

If you are able, find the reason WHY you eat too much. List alternatives to comfort eating (if that's a case), and decide on the way how to lose weight. Healthy eating is always a good choice.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

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[scaryadders]

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. When the house is quieter I will sit and read the links.

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to scaryadders]

There's no rush, take your time and ask if you have questions

[Nomash]

I started by ditching bread, because I ate loads of it, easily 6 or more slices a day. I didn't realise just the very eating of it was making me crave more! On the low carb high fat way of eating I could eat cheese! Brilliant!

[Hidden]

You’ve been given & will be given even more sensible advice but here is my irreverent twopenceworth:

- look at fat people in restaurants, cafes, pubs & supermarkets. With a few exceptions (the people on the site who are changing habits!), their plates and shopping baskets are full of cake, crisps, sweeties, chips & general high sugar high processed crap. If we also eat like that (talking to myself here too), we will also be fat

- each food choice influences our future food choices. Every time I choose & eat a salad, not toast at home or a panini & chips when I am out, I make it more likely I will eat another salad & another. Salad becomes normal. Yes I can just have a few sweets from my son’s treatbox & maybe they are only 100 kcals or whatever, but every time I eat them, I make sweet choices more inevitable later

- if you have no willpower, don’t rely on it. Chuck out all temptation from your cupboards. -Tell everyone in your life that you feel a fat blob (or whatever the right words for you are) and they are to challenge you choosing bad food- and tell them what bad food is (my ex husband did not understand that a huge Danish pastry was inconsistent with weight loss, but that’s not the reason I divorced him)

- and write in big letters everywhere, fridge, mirrors, ‘I am not going to be ruled by cake! I can be free!’ Also ‘I can have cake, it is not forbidden, I just choose not to because I want to be slim’ and ‘a manicure is a treat! A slab of cake is a heart attack’ and other similar things to re-wire your brain

- celebrate losing weight in 2019: cheese, cream & steak are in. Diet shakes, fat free cottage cheese and other disgusting pap are out.

In short, you can be thin, but you can’t be thin and eat cake. That’s all there is to it really.

[scaryadders in reply to Hidden]

I love this x

[Tiggerr in reply to Hidden]

'but that’s not the reason I divorced him'... I so wanted it to be the reason

[Hidden in reply to Tiggerr]

Oh it was all much more terrible & horrific, but all in the past now & I am remarried to the nicest man in the world.

[Tiggerr in reply to Hidden]

Unfortunately it sometimes is.

Glad that it's all ok now and lucky you!

[BerlinBetty Visitor]

Yay to Hidden on avoiding carpy food. Start with that, which is a HUGE thing in most people's lives.

Then remind yourself every day that overweight people tend to die younger. It's as bald and true as that. But only after most of them have undergone a series of poor health conditions which seriously affect their quality of being in later life. We all have things to combat but in the end, our love of Life and all its possibilities should be a factor in life-change. BB x