Morning all, For years now I have devoted my life to my family! there have been some upsets along the way, "some self inflicted" and others well beyond my control or completely unforeseen, as some of you will be aware from my previous posts. I have only had three jobs in my working career which covers a 40 year span (this September), they have been seamless without a day unemployed.
Again as some of you may recall I joined Health unlocked last year as I felt it was time to really start looking after myself and lose a couple of stones, to get back to my ideal weight of around 13 stone, so off I went following the 12 week plan and was making steady progress, then just before Christmas last year I gained severe pains in my right hand which turned out to be the onset of Osteoarthritis and set me back with my weight loss training plan, until I could eventually get the cortisone injection needed to relieve the pain. With this done and some considerable time passing I came back here and was a "Re-start", again I got back on track and started losing weight and lost around 6 lbs, which I was pleased with. At the end of July we went on our family holiday which was brilliant, and upon my return had put on just over a 1lb in weight, which I could accept (Greek food and beer for two weeks), so weighed in last week with Tuesday Trimmers and wasn't feeling to bad.
But since getting back off holiday if it could go wrong it has, the boiler in the house packed in, my Dad was taken into hospital 450 miles away from where I live (he's now home in Newcastle), HMRC now say I'm not entitled to 'Child benefit' this year or last year and must pay it all back, even though I sorted it out with them last year with official letters from my kids school and college head teachers, my wife and I don't appear to be as close as we once were and we only seem to make small talk,so loneliness is setting in. And finally for some reason around 50 of my garden pond fish have been dieing off over a period of two weeks.
Due to this my focus has not been on losing weight, in fact to be honest I've just though to myself, "whats' the point???" yes I understand the long term health benefits, but no matter how I try to ensure my family are safe secure and provided for, and everything I do and have done all my life has been above board, I still get the rough end of the stick, and don't appear to be able to break the cycle, as everything that happens is random, or unforeseen.
So I'm sorry to say that this week I let the Tuesday Trimmers down, by putting on another 2lbs, and why you may say has this happened, well it because I can't see the point in my efforts, as all of the above happened over the last few weeks I have visited the Cake cupboard an more occasions that I would care to mention, I have broken my limit of only having a beer on a Friday night with my mates, and I haven't been in my gym since coming home on the 7th of August.
I'm hoping that I can snap out of this, and get back on track again but I can'see anything positive and nearly every minute of the day I'm wondering What's Next?
Hope you are all having a more successful time than myself at the moment.
Ah, the big question. I reckon you'll get a different answer from everyone you ask! Sounds like you've been hit with a few body blows, sometimes life is just like that though, everything is ticking over and then it all goes up the creek in a heartbeat.
Had a boiler go out on me once, but only one in 25 yrs of living in houses with them so fair do's. People get old, get sick, sounds like you are living away from your hometown, maybe away from family, that's a choice some people make. My Mum spends half her time in California, the other half in the UK, my sister and her family live in AbuDhabi, I work in Saudi 6 months of the year while my wife and son are at home. It's different for everyone. Sure I'd feel bad if they got ill, but it's a choice I've made to move away, have to tough it out unless they are on deaths door.
No idea about your fish mate, never had them but know that you can do everything right and still lose them from something completely out of your control. Friend of mine had about 10 grands worth of fancy koi fish decimated by a mink or some other wild predator. It was just killing them for sport rather than food, fish laying all over the place when he'd look out of the window in the morning. And the missus, sheesh, happens to us all I should imagine, I've certainly had ups and downs, but one or the other reaches a point, it gets talked about and then we put the effort in. Easy to become used to someone and take them for granted after a long time, you have to both put some effort in to keep the spark alive.
So what's it all about, well, if you knew it was all going to end today, what would you think of your life? If you say to yourself, I've done alright, looked after those I care about, fair play to you, If not, what would you change? Being healthy is just part of it, easier to enjoy life when you're healthy, usually get more time to enjoy it too. There's no hard and fast rule, it's all a big balancing act. There's always going to be someone happier, richer, better looking, stronger than you are, just as there will be those not as well off, uglier, sicklier that would kill to be in your shoes.
You have to roll with the punches, prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
Hope it picks up for you fella.
Hi Stevo5585.
What a great response to my post, it's carefully and considerately worded, and I appreciate it. Don't get me wrong we have been together for 25 years and have had difficult and great times during this period, but the last few weeks has just been relentless, and I think that this is where me and Ali have become battle weary, so we plod on overcoming each hurdle!! but at what cost? to be honest I think we've got to the stage where; because we have both tackled these recent and in some cases expensive issues head on neither of us want to talk about it any further as it just prolongs the downturn in our happiness especially as the after glow of our superb holiday is still fresh in our minds, I'm sure we'll come out the other side, brush ourselves off and move on. But God I hope it's soon, then I can concentrate on losing this weight for next year.
Sorry this appears to have turned into a bit of a counselling session and not what this forum is all about, so I apologise for this. Sorry guys.
Thanks.