I'm stuck in my ways and can't see a way out.
Hey I'm 29 and an overweight. I have been for as far as I can remember. I'm not tall and my fat seems to be around my tummy, bum butt and thighs. I'm now 14 stone. It seems every year I gain a stone and this isn't how I want to be. I'm a gym sinner I join don't go cancel membership and repeat this every 6 months?
So my latest idea was swimming every morning I have been once. Help me
Maybe you are making a similar mistake to what I used to make. When I first joined here I was not losing any weight and when I mentioned this on here I was asked how many calories a day I was eating. When I told this person I was only eating around 1000 Cals a day I was told that this was my mistake. I had to check how many calories I should be having on the NHS bmi calculator as this was the only site that gives us the personal amounts we should eat between to be able to lose weight. All the other sites tend to give average amounts that are the same amounts they give to everyone. If you eat less amounts than the personal amounts given to us by the NHS bmi calculator our body thinks that we are starving it and to ensure it can continue our bodies turn everything we do eat into body fat and this weighs more than eating the extra calories does so it stops you from losing weight and sometimes puts weight on instead. Please make sure you don't also make this same mistake. Good luck with your journey.
Hi, I wouldn't worry too much about exercise yet. I would start a sustainable eating plan where you get enough calories to lose weight and yet not feel like you are starving. 🤞
Swimming every morning is quite a commitment. How about smaller, more doable changes so exercise becomes a routine. For example, go for a ten minute brisk walk. I started small and now exercise at least half an hour a day. Small changes add up! Good luck!
I did the same. I also started with being active: mopping and vacuuming eith attitude. I also walked up and down i. My house. Carrying and fetching. This was not an easy change.
Weightloss starts in your kitchen.
Hello Zala88 and welcome to the Weight Loss Forum
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Have a look at the NHS 12 week plan, as many people have had success with it. Also use the BMI checker to find your target calories, it's important to eat enough. This was a major turning point for me, realising I could eat anything I wanted as long as the calories are accounted for. Don't forget to take your starting measurements and a 'before' picture, as they can be very motivating on days that the scales refuse to co-operate
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Best wishes
Anna
Thank you everyone for your replies. I know a big part of weight loss is my diet. I eat crisps almost every day and when I get in from work I choose snack choices. Even with fruit in the house I tend to eat crisps or something. My meal planning is crap and I have said this over and over again. I can cook but I just struggle with ideas and planning. This is my struggle
Can you get a couple of food books out of the library and maybe do one or two of the recipes each week. This gives you a planned meal and you can shop specifically for it. It certainly makes it easier if you get home and know what you are cooking. 
This is an excellent place for good food ideas and other ideas
You sound so defeated and angry
You can help yourself and many of the people writing here will give you very sensible advice and kind support
But only you can act on it
And you can
If you are smart enough to articulate your distress you are smart enough to take those first baby steps
No gym no swimming start with a 15 minute walk and ban chocolate from the house
Next day you will feel stronger and take another walk
And so on
My very best wishes and keep in touch
I struggle with planning as well, that's why I could have done better. They know what they are talking about. I'm gonna cook for my meals tomorrow. Good luck on your journey.
Thank you
It might help if you really think about why you want to lose weight. In the past I've mostly been concerned about how I look to others, but this time I want to lose it to keep myself healthy, my thinking has shifted. Never know when we might succeed. Best of luck.
Thank you. I have always tried this but I think it is a balance of my mood too it's like a vicious circle
I would say - forget the exercise. For now just focus on food choices. It's pointless stressing out because you 'should' be going to the gym, 'should' be running 5k a day, 'should' be doing yoga/pilates/swimming etc. All that is going to do is increase your emotional eating. Once you've got the eating side sorted and the weight starts falling off try introducing some activity. I think that's why I have always failed. Trying to do too much at once. Some people can do it and some can't. I don't feel guilty about not exercising because I am still learning to look after myself through healthy eating. Hang in there, you'll make it happen 
What are your favourite dinner recipes? (Im stuck in a rut)
Stuck in a rut
I was so fit now I'm not - URGHHH. Yoyo dieters stuck in a rut 😢
Stuck 
