help.....

[aishacedeno]

the thing is i really was losing the weight but then i had an emotional breakdown in January which led to me being the hospital at the psychiatric ward for a few days.i had had to change sleepingpills over an over wen i came out i thought things would hav felt a lil better for me.but everything jus went down hill .I've been putting on a pound every week im 273pounds. my sleep is being affected more n more.feeling more depressed avoiding people basically jus waiting to die the biggest part of my life has left me wen my mom past away 12yrs ago I'm 25 yrs now an I'm carrying that burden for years....gosh its so much to say to u all...but my life feel so mess up right now

[Gobbolino]

I'm so sorry to hear. The little I know about depression and/or anxiety is that exercise does wonders. Going out for a walk, looking at nature, Spring, birdies. Try a class of pilates or yoga or tai-chi if you feel comfortable. Get yourself a routine, to get up and out. That could do the world of good. I find that I have to exercise in the morning-by afternoon I'm too tired and have too many things to do. Have you tried a help group to cope with your mom's passing? Find something to do, you can do this and we will be right behind you. Big hug and go out for a walk in a park as soon as you can.x

[Tiggerr]

Hi aishacedeno and welcome.

A big step for you to post on here so well done. You say you were hospitalised and I was just wondering if you were getting any follow up support. I'd expect you are but if not then a visit to your doctor would seem to be a step in the right direction.

As for actually losing weight, an administrator will reply to your post and provide you with a road map on how you may be able to move forward and how to get the best from this forum.

I normally babble on more than this but have to go to work (lucky you )

Good luck!

[lucigret]

To start I am sending you a big hug. I know about depression, panic attacks and avoiding people. I had an emotional break down 18 years ago. You are the only one that can over come this. It is not easy to take those first steps, I know only too well. Make yourself go out for a short walk, maybe just around the block and do it every day. Do you have a friend or a family member who would support you?

If you haven't received any bereavement counselling go to your Doctor and ask for some, even if you have, ask for more. If you haven't tried self meditation then I highly recommend you give it a go.

You are only 25, to have lost your Mum at 12 is awful, but I can guarantee your Mum would be so upset to know that her passing had affected you so badly. She would feel dreadful to hear you say you are waiting to die. I have children just a bit older than you. I know your Mum would want you to get back on your feet and live life to the full- try and do it for her. It will take time and you will have good and bad days but you can do it. You have to push yourself to focus on the good. Come and have a look at the Happiness Challenge on here, you may not want to take part but just come and dip in and out and see if it might help your mind set. You need to have a positive mind set to loose weight as well.

Accept it is all going to take time but all is achievable especially with the support from the lovely people on this forum.

Sorry if I have 'gone on', I just know if I could find my way through it, so can you, I was in my early 30's with 3 children. It was the worst time of my life, I do understand. Do it for Mum - sending you more hugs and lots of strength. 💐💐

One of Admin will welcome you soon, YellowRose55 , moreless , IndigoBlue61 or Hidden .

Keep posting, no question too silly😊

[Gemini64]

Morning

You have come to the right place for some help.

I lost my mum 23 years ago I still miss her and our chats. Nobody can replace your mum but there are some truly wonderful people on here. It's a great place for sounding off and getting the best backup. It's hard enough to try and loose weight without the added problems of being depressed and not being able to sleep.

All the others have given you sound advise. There is also a Daily Diary on here to help you post what your eating, ( and also how your feeling) it might help you to take it day by day. You have to learn to love yourself, you are so young and have a whole lifetime ahead of you.

Like the others have said your mum would be so upset if she could see you struggling now.

Keep on posting, take it slowly and good luck.

Big hug 🤗 you can do this! 😎

[Anita44]

Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, it's difficult sometimes but unfortunatley life goes on and we have to somehow carry on, remember the good times with her but please don't punish yourself by letting it affect your health. You're so young and deserve a bright future ahead of you, you have acknowledged you need support and this place is a good start. My advice always is to start off with setting small achievable goals and get that motivation going, if you mess up one day just get back on the next as we are only human and these mishaps happen. I wish you good luck and don't give up.

[IndigoBlue61]

Some lovely replies here from this amazing forum ❤️

I hope you have had time to read the welcome info you were given yesterday aishacedeno 😊

Deep breath, change one thing at a time, you can do this 😊

Best wishes

Anna

[Hidden]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss how ever long ago it was. Its always going to be there maybe bereavement councelling would help my G P gave me the number for cruise.

Do you have any others around you to support you family , friends or do you play the strong man alone who on the outside shows a coping person but inside is screaming and takes comfort from food like a lot of us do. Because we don't know the whole story its hard to advice on personal things. I have 2 boys around the same age as yourself one is 23 other is 26, you are you and I know I wouldn't want them to be sad.

I recently lost my mum and I know how hard it must be especially if you were so close like I was. I thought I was coping but it finally caught up with me after lots of other personal issues and only recently started having councelling because although I have friends and family I suffer from anxiety and so was worried about burdening them but that was my anxiety because they're all there to support me now and the councellor showed me that

she is also none judgemental and confidential and has given me great ideas to get stronger and that in turn helps with losing those pounds ☺

You have your whole life ahead to get healthy and live a good happy life think of what you do in little steps at a time.

We are all here to support you, as the others have said look all around the forum it is really good I find the happiness challenge helpful find George56 hes fab a great guy who will make you chuckle

Take care x

[George56 in reply to Hidden]

Good afternoon Kath, thankyou for your support and information, a very nice letter.

I have had the support from cruise, I now see a Doctor who is helping me with everything.

The group I attend is weight management, and involves the big picture.

I'm also on medication, this has helped.

I have just slowed down now instead of rushing about etc.

Learning to say no has been a benefit also.

I am happy to just retire now, lose the weight and get back out doors walking.

That's a good goal, I also have the support from my wife and daughter at home.

I want and do support them both.

Hope you have a great day and enjoy your healthy meals Kath.🌹

My kind regards George, 🙂💐

[Ceals in reply to Hidden]

Really lovely post Hidden

[Ceals]

Well done for joining us aishacedeno I think coming on the forum regularly will be great idea. Just join in the conversations and consider if you can do any of the challenges.

Take things at your own pace and don't beat yourself up.

Take care.