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4 stone loss, so why do i still feel so FAT

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Hi all, I've lost 4 stone, because the scales tell me so, my clothes are huge and everyone keep saying how fantastic i look. Problem is i still feel FAT! I feel absolutely HUGE, yes i can see the weight loss when i look in the mirror but nothing makes a difference to how i feel. The more i loose the fatter i feel. I have researched phantom fat syndrome and it does sound like i could be experiencing this, however, all the advice given is not helping. I just wanted to know if anyone else is experiencing this?

I am used to my new way of eating now and I'm coping very well with it, so all in all I'm doing great, i just can't get rid of this FAT, HUGE, OBESE feeling and it driving me crazy!!! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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Fedupwithreflux profile image

Hello. This is my first week , however over the past 40 yrs I've tried weight watchers about 4 times slimming world, & even dieting myself, all of which I have lost weight.

But here I am again nearly 63 obese & really fed up. like you I also felt fat even when I got to 9st ( 23yrs old & before the babies) , even when I was wear size 12 jeans I felt fat. I don't really have an answer I think maybe we are use to seeing ourselves bigger. I'm going to aim to lose 2st, to begin with health problems & a wedding to go to has spurred me on.

congratulations on losing 4st keep at it girl

IndigoBlue61 profile image

It's very difficult after losing weight to change how we feel inside ๐Ÿ˜• I'm in a similar position, everyone telling me that I look fabulous but I know what I look like naked ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ I'm not sure what the answer is. I try to focus on health and my new found energy and enthusiasm, but I understand what you are saying. I hope someone else has more useful advice

Best wishes


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hope4ali in reply to IndigoBlue61

Thank you for the advice ๐Ÿ˜†

LinaLamont profile image

I haven't had exactly this problem, but have experienced something similar.

I'm in a weird period where although I'm 3lbs off my goal I don't feel proud of my weight loss. All I can do is focus on the negatives like still being a size or two bigger than some of my friends (those who are size 6 - 8, have been all their lives, eat a lot of chocolate and never exercise).

When I look in the mirror I often think I've still got a chubby face, I'm not 'toned' enough, my arms have no definition, my tummy is still squidgy. I constantly look for reassurance from others that I have lost weight and look different, although I feel self conscious talking about it at all.

The only way I can think of it is that looking in the mirror critically has been a life long habit for me and all habits are intensely difficult to break. Unfortunately I've had low self esteem, anxiety and depression for most of my life and that won't be all cured with just losing weight.

Borrowing heavily from CBT I had last year, it's not fair on myself to think that being overweight is inherently evil, that it made me bad, that I was stupid or ugly or worthless before I lost three stone. Likewise, being slim does not automatically make me a better person.

I think if I don't think in such black and white terms, I am less likely to criticise myself for any slightest 'imperfection.'

That turned into a bit of a ramble but hope it helped - you are not alone :)

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IndigoBlue61Maintainer in reply to LinaLamont

Lovely reply LinaLamont thank you โ˜บ

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hope4ali in reply to LinaLamont

Thank you for sharing, i like to hear about other people's experiences. ๐Ÿ˜†

Jessie92 profile image

I know exactly what your going through, I have lost 6 stone and all my self confidence/esteem with it :/ I feel worse now then I ever did before! If you find anything that helps please let me know! :)

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hope4ali in reply to Jessie92

Weigh in last night and i lost again. But it seems the more i lose the fatter i feel. I have done some research on what people call 'phantom fat syndrome' might be worth a look, however it hasn't really helped me. I think if this carries on I may think about talking to my GP about it, as it's really starting to consume me.

I really hope you start to feel better soon, sorry i can't be of much help ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

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Fedupwithreflux in reply to Jessie92

Well done Jessie , what I don't understand is my daughter has lost weight & now weighs 10st 11lb she looks fabulous in her size 10/12 clothes (uk size), yet another person weighing the same needs size 16 clothes, same height, etc it don't make sense .

Vellerium profile image

Guys I know this post is old, but I am still going to reply to it anyways.

Starting from 2018 just before the Christmas holidays (I am 16) I weighed in at 12 stone 2 pounds.

It's now April the 8th I weighed my self yesterday and I am now 10 stone 10!

Because I am a male and I do Weight squats, I have rather big thighs this puts my self esteem down a bit, because I never realised what squats would do to my thighs so quickly.

Even though I have lost 1 stone and 4 pounds, I still feel like absolute rubbish.

Firstly, what I recommend you do, even if you have a crap metabolism is you do swimming.

Swimming is a good fat burner.

I bet, even if you are quite chubby, you will see results on the scale and on yourself with in 3 weeks if you do it 2 times a week.

I go on saturdays and tuesdays. Afterwards, I feel great from swimming. Just give it a try.

For those of you that really hate the way you look, I have learned to look in the mirror, never look down at yourself, you will feel fatter than you are. The mirror does not lie, it's what others see (unless your mirror is distorted) I know this is asking a lot. But, do not look in the mirror often + when you do swim or whatever you do, do not weigh yourself constantly. Weight loss takes time, which means if you weigh yourself everyday or 4 times a week, chances are your going to be disappointed.

You are all lovely people, enjoy your life, who cares what others think about you. You are all beautiful, I know a 16 year old male saying this when some of you are older than me but, still... like, just forget what others think. After all, who's life is it? It's yours! If people around you can not make you feel good about yourself on the inside, are they really good people to be hanging around with? Get a gym buddy maybe, a person that can make you more confident as a person, and encourage you when ever you gain that 1 pound to not worry about it and help you loose it again. Do not feel to stressed about your body, after all... God judges us on the quality of our life, not how we look in the mirror.

You're all beautiful. Remember that.

Little joke/not a good joke: They say you should never take life so seriously, after all nobody gets out alive anyways :) xd

Urwhatyoueat profile image

Because I presume you were bigger for a long time? Your body may have changed but your brain is taking a little longer to catch up. I remember shopping after a weight loss and still picking up my old size and shape of clothes that I always went for. It was only because my cousin turned and said to me " what are you doing?" That made me rethink!

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Katey20212021 October

Hello I was 19 stone a.d now I'm 15 stone I feel the same it's all to do why losse skin for me he horrible I work out loads eat healthy walk loads.but the more I lose the more loose skin I have I feel amazing but still fell fat i get what your ever you have done so good to come this far you should feel proud

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lucigret1 stone in reply to Katey2021

Hello Katey2021 and welcome to the forum. Well done on your 4 stone loss ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™‚.

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You have replied to a very old post, you may want to write your own post and introduce yourself to the forum. I am sure many of our members would like to hear how you have lost the weight and would enjoy celebrating with you :)

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