Back again!

[DownwardSpiral]

Hi there all! I haven't posted on here for sometime now (prob more than 6 months). I got to my goal and then things went very wrong for me and my family after a bereavement. For a while there was no difference and for a while I lost too much weight from IBS brought on by stress but since Christmas I have kind of reverted back to my old 'eating for the sake of it' ways. I realise that I am searching for comfort in food and I don't want to get back into that habit but I am having trouble getting back on 'the horse'. I decided to 'bite the bullet' & get back on the scales a fortnight ago (I'd also gotten out of the habit of getting on the scales regularly as burying my head in the sand. Anyway I wasn't all that surprised to see I had put in a stone. I had a week of keeping to my calories and lost half of that but then reverted back last week after being off work but really busy, so it was takeaway week. I have things on in the next couple of months so I want to get back on it a) because I feel unwell with it all and not happy b) been suffering with my back and knee pain again c) my clothes r getting a bit snugger!

It's like I am punishing myself again even tho I don't want to. Like I say it is no excuse but the last few months have been very hard and I am struggling to straighten myself out! I've been trying to b strong for everyone else and half heartedly thinking about myself! I also got a new job within this period which I desparately needed but again it was just another thing to be dealing with as lots to learn! Hence why I am here. .I figured if I write it all down to c, it will give me the kick up the backside I need! 😂 Sorry for the long rant!

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Welcome back, DownwardSpiral,

I'm so sorry to hear that you have, indeed, been on a downward spiral following a bereavement. My sincere condolences to you and your family. I hope that the rawness is past now and that you're coming to terms with the loss.

I think that and a new job has been an awful lot of stress, which, as we all know, does not sit happily with weight loss. Don't add pressure by being so hard on yourself, as that will only serve to add fuel to the fire.

Maybe try some simple steps to start with and gradually get yourself back in the saddle. Perhaps you could try planning some healthy meals and preparing enough to put some in the freezer, so that on days when you don't have the time, energy, or inclination, there's always something easy to eat, rather than resorting to takeaways.

Going for a short walk each day, will help to make you feel better too

I really hope that you're able to find some comfort and motivation, here on the forum, with your friends

[DownwardSpiral in reply to moreless]

Thankyou moreless

[elliebath Maintainer]

I am sorry to hear of your bereavement. You've had a tough time and it's so easy to take comfort in food and drink ... we've all done it ! BUT you lost the weight once so you can do it again.

As moreless says, Just take little steps to improve your diet and exercise and build from there, even a snails pace is better than none.

[DownwardSpiral in reply to elliebath]

Thank you for your kind words elliebath

[DownwardSpiral]

Sorry I did send a long response but I lost all the text when I went to send! Thank you I appreciate your advice. Things have got very complicated & nasty to be honest (as they often can do after a family bereavement) we've been very busy and stressed since xmas. So what with losing a loved one we've had extra pressure and worry. I worry about my Mum and Dad being put under so much stress but I know that is absolutely no excuse for me overeating! 🤔 I am hoping in the next few weeks that that stress will be alleviated a bit, which will actually give us chance to grieve and start thinking about ourselves a bit!

[elliebath Maintainer in reply to DownwardSpiral]

Sounds like you're coping with your own and others' stress. Don't rule out some counselling, it really can help you know. All the best.

[DownwardSpiral in reply to elliebath]

Thank you elliebath

[Clairewww]

Life sometimes really gets in the way doesn't it. Sorry for your loss and all the other stuff that followed.

The good news is that you're back! Onwards and downwards 😊

[DownwardSpiral in reply to Clairewww]

Thank you Clairewww

[DRS54]

Rant away, as long as you are not eating while you are typing ;). Well done for coming back so quickly before too much damage is done and for not having given in to the next clothes size up. Now look out at the hopefully better weather, you know what to do and you have done it before, so you can do it again! Good luck!

[DownwardSpiral in reply to DRS54]

Aw Thank you. Yes fingers crossed for brighter days now, always makes me feel better and more positive! 🌷🌸🌻⚘🌞