What a horrible experience. I feel really cross with those blokes. However men dissing you about your body shape are themselves being totally out of order, they have their own problems which aren't yours. What they are saying has nothing to do with your actual size.
Your problem is that it is really hard to know how to deal with that and cope with the feelings it brings up in you.
You asked for advice. The only thing I can think of is that you might feel a bit better if you realise that many of your colleagues at work probably also have had to deal with crappy customers from time to time and so I think you should tell them what happened and ask their advice so they can tell you how they've coped when people say stuff to them. Also tell your supervisor.
I totally agree! You should write everything that had been said on a piece of paper for your records and make a copy for your boss to be notified about the situtation. He or she should help take care of the problem. Remember, this ISN'T YOUR FAULT!
I know how you are feeling this happens to me too.
Im 26, 5ft 4, 14 stone and bottom heavy i was 18 stone at my heaviest. I weighed 18 stone at 15
I used to let it get me down. All the nasty comments used to make me feel completely worthless, i used to believe everything they were telling/shouting at me. It made me depressed and im pretty much shut myself away from the world feeling ashamed of myself.
Dont listen to them people who say nasty things are only doing to make themselves feel better, they are normally the most insecure.
Stay strong you need to believe in yourself don't let them get you down.
Either just turn round and insult them right back where it hurts, make a joke of it, or threaten to report them to HR next time they do it.
Wish I weighed as little as you do.
Or, accidentally knock something noxious over them.
Not at all! I am also 5 ft 6 and i am meant to weigh 11 stone 10lbs.. i now weigh 12 stone 2lbs and i have a bit of a belly so you are definitely not fat, if you are... i dare to wonder what i am! *hugs*
These lads at work sound like bullies, report it x
You sound like you are at a healthy weight for your height. Bellies are normal for girls - just look at all the other women around you. Enjoy your young body because one day you will be 50, or 60 (like me), and looking back at your young self, and thinking why on earth did I waste time feeling bad about myself when I was young, healthy and beautiful! Ignore those louts you work with - they are just trying to get you annoyed; and and if it was me, I would think up some sarcastic retorts to get back at them......
Tell them to go and learn some manners
Frankie some silly little boys (and girls) just don't grow up- youre a beautiful young woman and they've obviously noticed you and want to enjoy teasing you (remember the boys back in primary school that used to make out you were disgusting but secretly they had crushes on you? Well i'm afraid some of them just dont grow out of it)
however there is good news...
You have many options and as these pondlife amoebas only hunt in packs i'd suggest the "divide and conquer" approach (much easier to "pick em off individually ; ) you could try ignoring them, or threatening to report them (as previously suggested by someone) or if youre feeling a bit cocky you could "love bomb" them with "oh my gosh thats so sweet of you to notice me- thank you so much (lightly squeeze their arm at the same time" (completely throws most people) or if youre just sick of it and feeling ballsy- "you could try "oh i'm so glad you feel you can be honest with me because i've been wanting to ask you for so long about... (your one leg being shorter than the other/ whether you should get that mole removed from your face/ whether you think your opinion matters to me/ whether me losing 5 lbs would be more expensive than you having facial reconstructive surgery? i was just telling your colleague that i couldnt place where ive seen you before- doh then i realised you look like one of the gnomes at the front of the store ... etc
So honey you got choices- just make sure whatever you do doesnt cost you your job and dont for any reason think for one minute that their behaviour is acceptable. Make sure you think through the consequences and make sure your doing the right thing for you and your personality.
No-one on this planet has the right to criticise your body (and dont you forget that)
Let us know how you get on- we're right behind you : )
Obviously not nice people. I would stay away from them. You don't need that sort in your life. I would just ignore them. However, Marmiterehoming has a lot of good points , yes it would be fun to give them a dose of their own medicine. hahaha. I can think of a few but not suitable for this forum.😂
Well your weight you can do something about, IF you need to. They will probably always be stupid and nasty. Practise your replies in the mirror. Another time you can hit back. How about, "Your wife/mum etc must really love you, if she puts up with this rudeness! Although I should warn you, she may not always feel that way, if you think talking to women like this is acceptable." Girl power!
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i was 18 stone at my heaviest. I weighed 18 stone at 15
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