Depressed with Fat

[Jassskaur33]

Hey am 17 years old nd my weight is 62 kgs i am very much depressed cz of it bcz everyone use to taunt me cz of my fat i tried gym but then people said tht if u will stop gymming u will again gain weight i dont knw what to do can anyone help me with thiss... I can't even focus on my 12th cz of this

[Tiggerr]

Hi Jasskaur and welcome. Sorry to hear that people have been taunting you... some people can be so cruel and insensitive.

Exercise is useful for keeping us healthy but eating and drinking correctly are key to managing our body weight so don't worry too much about whether you go to they gym or not.

If you don't mind me asking, how tall are you?

[Wahlass]

Good morning. Your weight is not heavy at all. Exercising will make you feel happier naturally as it releases endorphins. You don’t need to go to the gym you can do exercises at home, the body coach does work outs on you tube and they are great and only 20 mins long. Remember nothing changes over night unfortunately so try little things one at a time eat healthy and smile because smiling is the best exercise ever. At 17 don’t be upset about your weight.

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone]

Hello and welcome to the forum, Jassskaur

Gaining and losing weight is much more down to what we eat than to exercise. Exercise has many benefits so find something that you enjoy, as you're more likely to stick to it, and don't rely on it for weight loss.

As we don't know how tall you are, it's hard to say anything useful about your weight. I would just suggest you get into the pattern of eating healthy, real food and enough of it. Avoid processed stuff, and that includes anything labeled low fat or light or diet - all heavily processed. Eat two or three meals and avoid eating between meals.

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[BerlinBetty Visitor]

So sorry to hear you are down Jassskaur33 and know so well how that feels. I'm pretty ancient now but can remember back in the 1960s (yes, that long ago!) how badly I was taunted for being so skinny I looked like an ironing board on both sides. Most of my peers were very curvy and filled a bra easily and I was thin and there wasn't much on board to make me feel like a young woman!

First, try very hard to grow an extra skin; these people are cowardly and always work in groups. By being cruel they feel cool and popular but they are Sad Cases really and cruelty won't stand them in good stead when they are in a relationship later. Most partners walk away from unkindness. They are not destined for happy lives. You don't need to tell them that; they will find it out for themselves.

Meanwhile, Concentrate on You. If the gym looks too public and hard go on Youtube and find some exercise that attracts you and is doable in the privacy of your own room, as Wahlass so rightly says Then, again, as Wahlass so rightly observes, it's your diet which will make the difference even more than getting the feel-good exercise pheromones going. Cut out snacks and read around this forum for good diet tips. It's a cliché but you really do have your whole life in front of you.

You can make yourself feel better by using determination and grit. Believe me, you have this in spadefuls; you just need to find this secret store, and then what you can achieve is boundless.

love Betty x

[BeingDifferentIsFab]

Hi Jassskaur

Firstly well done for speaking out on your situation, it can’t have been easy and shows how much inner strength you already have at such a young age.

As someone who weighs more than you, I must say; you are not fat and the people saying things are unkind, nasty individuals who are trying to push their own issues on to you. Don’t let them.

Being healthy and confident in yourself far outweighs the need to be what society defines as “skinny” and you need to eat and exercise according to what works for you! And at 17 you have plenty of time to figure this out so don’t add pressure to yourself.

I used to be gym shy and the thought of it scared me because it was the unknown and I believed everyone there was an Olympic athlete and I’d never be good enough to go.... I then actually joined and had some sessions with one of the trainers who wrote me a plan. I now love lifting heavy, it doesn’t make you manly or bulky and again haters will have opinions on this also!! I have also realised having spoken to a girl in the gym I had nicknamed “butt girl” because she honestly has an Instagram worthy figure that whilst I was wishing I could look like that, she was wishing she could look like another girl who goes there!! Which you never realise because we idolise people and don’t think they may have the insecurity we do!

Find a sport or exercise you enjoy, add in some healthy eating and you will be winning at the confidence thing because you need to live life for you, don’t let others drag you down or make you believe you are less than you are. You are young and beautiful and no one can take that from you

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone in reply to BeingDifferentIsFab]

Hello and welcome to the forum, BeingDifferentIsFab

What a very positive message and I hope Jassskaur33 can take it on board.

Please read the links I have give her, so you can find your way around and get the best out of the forum.

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Wishing you success in reaching your goals

[focused1 Maintainer 13kg]

Wish I could take you to my Zumba classes . At 62kg you are the same weight as me and I was 80kg . We are the slim ones here . We accept who we are and despite some of the class being heavier we are all very fit and exercise intensely for a hour . Don't diet - just think and eat . Watch portion sizes and have the odd treat . What weight are your friends ..truthfully ? I look quite slim in clothes . I am 5 ft 1 and wear size 12 jeans . I have 5 sons . They never looked for skinny women . Eating well though and exercising will be good for you and I would really encourage it but unless you are well under 5ft I'll bet you look pretty average .