Someone to vent to....

[ppicanso]

Not someone to let my problems be a burden to another human being. But I just feel like giving up..... I try to have the right mindset but it's like the devil likes to see me down.... people tell me all day every day how beautiful I am. Even strangers. But I don't feel it. When I look in the mirror I don't possibly see What they see. And Im trying so hard to believe in my self to do this but someday I have the will power and other days I just feel like I'm nothing. Sorry. For wasting anybodies time. Just had to let someone know how I feel

[Hidden]

Hi glad you felt able to share how you feel. Getting the right mindset to eat healthily and lose weight is hard. Weight loss is mental hard work and so tough on days we just can't stick to it. I find planning a head what I eat each day is so helpful. Have you tried myfitnesspal it's a great app to plan and track calories and it's free!

It's so hard to see what others see in us. I found it helpful to write down 5 things I liked about myself and focus on that. Not all were about my looks. I focus on things I am good at like knitting. Also that I have a lovely supportive family. Try focusing away from body image and discover who you are.

Hope this is helpful. Hope you have a good day.

[ppicanso in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for taking time out to reply..it's very hard you are right... I think I'm the biggest problem in down grading myself. And in that I've pushed the people that love me away... I think through this journey it's my main goal to find my self..... I just wish I could get my mind and body on track

[fibronfedup]

Your not wasting our time hun, we are here for the highs and the lows! It took me a while to see the changes in myself, even now i still have to stop my brain from thinking of myself as the big girl. We are our own worst enemies and its usually this that is the hardest to overcome. Try writing down the positives when they happen to read back when feeling low, keep your chin up hun we are all here for you

[Hidden]

Hi I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so low. I agree with Pog1's advice re trying to recognise the good in yourself, make plans for your goals etc. I have been doing those things and they really do help. From what you say, it sounds as though you are deeply unhappy with more than just your weight and that you may need some additional support for your journey. Maybe you could speak to your doctor about how you feel as well as sharing with the group here..... I really hope that you find the support and strength that you need. Good luck

[ppicanso]

Thanks to all..... for the week I been in this group it does help to reach out to other people... I wanna be that person. Who has a before. And after picture. I wanna inspire someone else in their battle with being over weight. My dream goal is to help others. But I know I have to help myself first

[eeek1110]

The feelings can't be stopped coming at you but you can be in charge of controlling them. It's good to have someone who understands so vent away whenever you feel like it. Take care and I hope the day picks up for you.

[HRHGaby]

People are beautiful, no matter what the scales show. Love yourself as you are, and improve what's possible to improve. Maybe it will be your hairstyle, maybe your makeup, your clothes; maybe your body. Make changes but always love the person you see in the mirror. Remember that you are loveable!

[ppicanso in reply to HRHGaby]

Honestly I'm scared to get on the scales. I don't know how much I weigh. I know it's alot.

[HRHGaby in reply to ppicanso]

So don't go on the scales and start making healthier choices in general (food, drink and exercise). Small things maybe, like swapping soda drinks for zero sugar ones, or having some fruit juice for dessert. And when you're feeling better and in control and feel ready go on the scales and keep on making small changes. Good luck!

[LifeChanger]

Loved your post. True honesty. Makes me and others feel like we're not alone.