POCS severity

[Hatstar]

Hi, I am 27 and have been trying for a baby for 2 years and after months of trying to find out what is wrong I found out on Tuesday I have PCOS. I feel exactly the same, I can’t stop crying and I don’t really know where to go now as I have been referred to the infertility clinic but because of COVID I am waiting on them to get back to me as they haven’t been operating during COVID so have a massive waiting list and I just feel like I’m not in control of anything which is making me more anxious and upset. I don’t know if I should go private so I can find out what the severity of my PCOS is. I also feel very alone as family members keep asking why me and my partner haven’t had kids and I don’t feel I can talk to them.

[LisaEB]

Firstly, what is all these worry achieving? It's not going to give you a baby and if you were to get pregnant its not going to help the baby. So breath. Enjoy your life, tell your family members you have pcos, you have been trying 2 years and would like a baby but its not happened yet. Maybe they will stop asking then as they will understand. In my experience, people only tell you they've been trying for 5 years after they had the baby. Its like a big secret and unless people have these conversations, people will always have these small minded conversations and not know the impact its having on others. Its nothing to be ashamed about .

You are 27 and have plenty of time. Hopefully the NHS will give you a scan to give you an idea of you pcos severity. However if you want to go private to speed things up there is nothing wrong in that either. Its just the cost obviously.

What you will also find from fertility that your partners sperms will be tested. Just because you have pcos does not mean it is you. There are two people in this equation. Many people with pcos go on to have children, it is a very common thing. So stop taking putting all that pressure on yourself.

Are you a healthy weight? Exercise? Eat well? These are things that you can control to get pregnant.

Also it was recommmed to me to take my instol, this can help with ovulation. There are products such as MYova and alpha inflic. It is specifically is supposed to help those with pcos too and no side effects.

Good luck in your journey. There are fertility drugs and even ivf, if it gets that far, so you still have options to have that baby.

[Hatstar in reply to LisaEB]

Hi,

I know the worrying isn’t helping I just can’t help but worry it’s the type of person I am and I am the type of person that likes to have control.

My partner has been tested and is all good so they are focusing on me. I am a healthy weight, I have 2 dogs so walk everyday, I don’t drink, I don’t smoke and I don’t drink caffeine either. So I have done all the things I have control of.

I have had a scan already but was just told I have it but that the fertility clinic will give me more details. I think it is the waiting for me that’s I struggle with. I have been looking at supplements to help so thank you for the recommendations.

I will eventually tell close family but I didn’t want to tell them until I actually knew what was wrong and as I was only diagnosed on Tuesday I just want to let it sink in before I tell them.

I know there are lots of positives in my case and it isn’t the worst case scenario I think it is just the struggle of not actually seeing a doctor as everything is over the phone and just waiting.

Thank you for replying and your advice, I will try to stop worrying.

[annouchka]

Hi,

I think you have all the right to be worried / stressed / jealous / angry / sad and more.

It is stressful and it is normal to feel isolated and lost.

I am 37 (and five months !) and I have PCOS. Without treatment, I ovulate naturally once a year, just to give you an idea of how well my lazy ovaries work

And I am 32 weeks pregnant. I thought I would never say that, so yes there is hope !

It has been a hard journey, a real battle. Me against my body, me fighting with my partner, me against the others, us against the NHS.

Waiting for a doctor appointment, a letter, a treatment drove me crazy. It has been 3 years of rollercoasters, hope, disappointment, hope again, wait and... again. We went through NHS, private, NSH again and then lockdown...

I don't know how I managed to get pregnant, Clomid may have helped even if I stopped it in February and got pregnant in April.

What helped me ?

These advice :

-You are not alone, plenty of women go through the same. You don't have to feel guilty because you feel sad or jealous when a friend gets pregnant (and easily grrrr!) Yes it is normal to find it difficult and unfair.

-Take care of yourself and of your couple. It is a hard journey for both

-PCOS is very common and plenty of women manage to get pregnant. You are 27, you still have plenty of time.

-It is important to talk about it, but sometimes people may not have the right reaction. Suddenly a lot of people around me became doctors (even if they had no clue about PCOS) : eat that, don't eat that, do meditation, stop worrying, drink that, do yoga, do acupuncture, stop being stressed. Well, not that easy !

Apologies for the mistakes, English is not my first language

Good luck !!!

[E_P_P]

There is always hope, my mum who has PCOS had me, been trying since i was born which is 18 years and she is finally pregnant so please don’t lose hope. Your time will certainly come just try not to worry i know its easier said than done which is completely understandable but I really wish you the best of luck and I’m sending tons of baby dust to you! <3