Help staying strong 💪

[Scotland119]

Helloo

I was wondering if anyone has any good ideas/ tips on How to u stay posative throughout each process? I know everyone is going to have some good days and some bad days but recently its been more bad its soo emotionally draining its coming up 3 years we have been ttc & it just seems to be a never ending process of disappointment & bad news😔

TIA xx

[Purpledoggy]

I am just starting my journey but I am fortunate to have a friend who was successful with IVF and she has been sharing some tips with me. On her successful (3rd) round, she did acupuncture and also yin yoga, and she thinks they really helped change her state of mind and relaxed her. I am planning on trying these and so hoping they help! I have also found an IVF app (Mindful IVF) that gets amazing reviews - I haven't tried it yet as I have not even started my first round but I have tried other guided meditation apps for insomnia and found them brilliant, so it might be worth checking out. Hope you feel better soon xx

[ACHH]

I have found that focusing on everything else but a baby helps?

My husband and I have been TTC and have had no success at the moment but I took the advice of a friend and focused on me and my husband. We keep busy by doing projects, I have a PT, started a book club with friends and make plans fun plans. All rather than staying in my consuming babyless bubble comparing myself against other people and dreaming about how I would decorate my empty 3rd bedroom that will one day be a nursery.

I didnt notice until I sat back but the obsession of TTC was consuming me day by day and making all my feelings so much worse. I have kind of spun it on his head and if I can get my body and mental state to the best it ever has been then perhaps the rest will fall in to place? Its so hard to not obsess and the other day I had a bad day when an ex co-worker had her baby and I wanted to cry and scream at the world but coming off social media for a bit has also helped.

I am not pausing my life anymore in hope my bundle of joy is just round the corner. Just focus on what makes you happy and achieve your personal goals, when that baby comes you will then be the best version of yourself.

You have got this, you are stronger than you know. We all are. xx

[LisaEB]

I've been pregnant 5 times in my life.. But I don't have a baby. I have PCOS. You need to have sex every other day. You need to relax, I alway got pregnant at Xmas time.. I assume this is when I was more relaxed. Eat well, exercise. Take any vitamins that may help. Have you been to the docs to do tests? Give you fertility treatment? Even IVF? Has your partners sperm been checked? The fertility doctor told my husband today to wear loose underwear and not to have saunas/baths, at that has an impact on sperm. Things that might not come to mind, can help.