Help I had an accident with my boyfriend it is day 12 of my cycle , he not been very forthcoming, my boobs already feel swollen, the incident happened today 3pm'
Should I take the morning after pill or should I leave it nature. I feel like a fool as I should not have trusted him. He said he wanted me to marry him
What If this is my baby
Only you know the answer to this. Only you know where you are at in your life and if you are ready to have a child. This is about freedom of choice, but you must consider your options thoroughly and the possible consequences going forward. You say your boyfriend isn’t forthcoming if you leave it, you have to ask if you become pregnant would you be happy to raise your baby as a single mother without his support? Have you spoken in depth with your boyfriend about both options- taking the pill or possibly becoming pregnant? Have you any friends or family you trust you can speak to? Can you afford to have a child? How is your health? Can you support yourself and a baby? Do you want a baby right now at this point in your life? Have you done all the things you want to do while you don’t have the responsibility of raising a child? They sound like harsh questions but having a baby is not something to do lightly and ‘let happen’ unless you are ready for the responsibility. If you are prepared for that and want to move forward then you need to consider all of this. Likewise you need to consider all the options with taking a morning after pill. Is that what you want to do? Do you really want to have a baby now? Who knows you may not be pregnant. However it is very possible to conceive if you have an ‘accident’ so I would act as though you could become pregnant and take it seriously.
Either way you need to book an emergency appointment ASAP- today to speak to GP or a family planning clinic to talk about your options, they can help you if you choose to possibly become pregnant and also help with the morning after pill. Normally you have 72 hours with a morning after pill but the chance of it working decreases the longer you leave it. But there may be other medication that I don’t know about it if it left longer so talk to a professional as soon as you can. To just ‘let it be’ and let yourself become pregnant doesn’t sound like there is a lot of forethought or good meaning and reason to do it. You either want a child and make a purposeful decision not to take the morning after pill and possibly become pregnant and be prepared for everything that comes with it or you decide to take the morning after pill and think about planning to conceive when you and your partner are both on the same page and are ready. Do you have a family planning clinic close to you? I would contact them today and explain on the phone the situation and that you need to speak to someone urgently today. You can speak to a nurse or doctor about it all and make the right decision for you. If you can take your boyfriend you can both make an informed decision going forward. Or if not take a friend/family for moral support. Good luck with your decision. Do what is right for you. X
what if this is my only chance to have a baby
I am 41
Have you spoken to your partner? What does he say? How does he feel?
I sent a there is no reply. I am trying to make objective decision, not based on finance, health or even this guy. As I am 41 maybe I wanted the accident
Do you have any friends or family you can call to have a chat through this all? It sounds like you have lot to think about.
yes but this is so embarrassing. Maybe I just take the pill and have done with it.
Talk to your friends and family, I know how hard it is to sometimes make that call but you can do it. most people would be very supportive if someone said they needed some advice and support. Be kind to yourself and call someone you trust and go for a cuppa or just chat on the phone. This forum is great but talking to someone who really knows you might help. Really talk and get it out and it might help you to make a decision. Good luck. X
Hi - How are you feeling today? I would talk to your partner to make the best decision as you say you are 41 and if you would like a baby then have a good think about it before you decide on the best option. You don't want to have any regrets later on in life.
Have you manged to get a doctors appointment? I would get a pregnancy test and then you know for sure. Good luck x
I am going a head I am 41 with PCOS I know my circumstances are not good.. I am looking for a job I want to go ahead. I will get a pregnancy test
How did you get on at the doctors? X
PCOS and feeling bitter about people around me getting pregnant :-(
Ttc journey & Metformin 
Dear colleague, please don't show me your baby photos, it hurts too much 😣
Pcos ,severe irregular period,infertility
