Can greif trigger ibs

[Kerrym78]

Hi i lost my mam in january 16 this year and and i bottle things up i find it hard to talk to people i been very bloated and in pain and struggle to go loo i have ibs tablets off doctors and having blood test on wednesday its got worse over weeks also suffer with piles . So uncomy

[Fruitandnutcase]

Im sorry about your mam, you must be missing her very much. I'm not a medical person but I imagine something like that happening in your life could easily trigger IBS.

I know my IBS is always triggered by stress and your mother dying is a pretty major stressful event for you.

If you have tried what the doctor gave you and it doesn't seem to be working then go back and speak to him again, I'm sure there are lots of things you could try, have you been given something for the piles as well?

Sounds like you need something to soften things up which will help your piles as well. I got stuff called Normacol last week, it worked well but it looks like cat litter. You take a sooonful of it on your tongue and wash it down with a drink of cold water. Tastes fine too.

Hope you can get sorted out soon.

[Kerrym78 in reply to Fruitandnutcase]

Thanks i only been on these tablets 8 days it started feeling better then i felt like it again i rang up docs i will got my piles cream monday have a blood test wednesday . Hopefully sort it out im not one for docters unless i really have to go c thanks again x

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Sorry I meant to leave the to Kerrym !

[elwins]

I suffer with colitis and I find stress does not help. You need to find out what it is. I find wheat and corn cause me problems, you might have to keep a food diary to see what triggers a attack. Best of luck

[Kerrym78 in reply to elwins]

Yes i will do thank you

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You need to get some counselling - speak to your GP

[ResolvedHypnotherapy]

Hello

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Hypnotherapy is NICE approved for IBS. When I work with IBS clients I find out, or encourage clients to find out, the nature of any allergies or intolerances, to cut down on caffeine, alcohol, nicotine etc.

I also find out why they are stressed and why they are bottling it up - as you describe. Perhaps the IBS is stressful enough already but there is nearly always a relative inability to process emotions in a naturally healthy manner.

As stress decreases, IBS symptoms recede, though they tend to lag behind for a while.

So, the above poster is correct. Get some help with the grief and learn to deal with stress on an everyday level more effectively.

I wish you all the very best.

Paul

[cat3]

IBS is a common symptom of stress and the two together can create a vicious cycle which can be difficult to break. When my mum died I thought my heart would break ; I didn't of course but other symptoms came to the fore, one on which was the IBS.

It was counselling which broke the cycle of grief, stress and other symptoms and, although I'd always rubbished counselling, after 12 months of weekly sessions I emerged a different person ; much more in control of my emotions and with symptoms down to a minimum.

I'll always have flare ups of this horrid condition (having one this week) but I know I'll only sort it by lowering stress levels.

My sincere sympathies for the loss of your dear mum ; it's the worst pain ever isn't it Kerry. Cat x

[AEL1989]

Stress is major in ibs in my experience. Before I reached out & had counselling, my ibs was unbearable. I am a different person now& haven't had a flare up for over four months. Good luck & much love x

[Hidden]

Hi my heart goes out to you ! Yes grief can do just about anything negative.

I lost my mum on the 12 december, so its early days yet.

When someone dies it usually takes me about 2-3 years before pain of greif goes.

Its a very gradual proses; dont worry you wont forget about her and you will be left with ALL the lovely memoreis.

From a christian point of view we will all be with our loved ones again one day.

So untill then all that we can do is get on with our lifes the best we can. Your Mum would want you to make the most of your life-thats what she brought you into the world for.

You can speak to me anytime.

Hope your tests are good and that you are soon feeling more comfortable.

Lots of love and Blessings S x

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SO SORRY I have left reply to fruitandnutcase-so sorry to hear about your mum !!

[AMHardulak]

I am very sorry for your loss.

I was recently diagnosed with IBS. Know that the first question my doctor asked me was if anyone close to me had died!

[bobbyrita]

i am so sorry. my ibs flared up six months ago when my best friend died .she fought cancer for 3 1/2 years. i still have constant stomach aches and now most food doesn't appeal to me. i bipolar and have for years been on antidepressants and anti anxiety pills but they are not helping this.

[Luisa22]

I think grief could cause IBS. I had a totally healthy gut and ate a great diet for ages. I lost so many friends and family, and 2 well loved dogs, all in about 10 years. I thought I was coping well. I let the grief out, didn't bottle it up, but had times of anxiety in the night and deep deep sadness for missing loved ones. I felt so alone and hollow some days. Tried to get on with life positively. Also I believe in life after death and know loved ones are ok. I kept eating healthily and my usual routines etc.

But then my gut got upset . That kind of started 4 years ago then went away. But for 2 years now it's set in. (with some times of total normality)

[bungi1961]

Yes I do think that there is something in what you have written as I had the death of my son Dec 7th 2019 suddenly and prior to that I had B/Cancer mid 2018 ( ok now) had chemo/radio my son had his health problems also I won't go into detail on that then I had to shield all through 2020 Covid ETC I had awful tummy problems 2 colonoscopies in a month polyps removed both times early 2021 told I had Diverticular Disease/IBS given FODMAP diet sheet then last year had colon scan followed by scan on my tummy like they do for when having a baby(as if ) then last year my Mum died in July not able to go to her funeral as it was 150 miles away from me watched it online instead still suffering with it today 19/02/2024 and can't attempt to go out not even to the Doc's ETC thank goodness for online shopping and a Husband to get other things I can't get online well I do wish you all the best and take care of yourself and I hope you look after yourself xx

bungi1961