Hugs ❤️❤️

Today my son and daughter in law came out to have supper with us to celebrate Father’s Day. They bring some dishes with them and we make some so it’s easy and fun. Tonight when they were leaving I looked at my son and said, the hell with this, and I hugged him. We have seen each other from a distance but I haven’t been within 6 ft of him since the first of March. I can say it is the longest hug I have ever had. I thought maybe I was squeezing him too tight and too long but when I tried to loosen my grip he was holding on for dear life. By the time we separated I was sniffing back tears, he was sniffing back tears and my husband and daughter in law were sobbing.

As they said, that hug was the most meaningful hug we have ever seen. My son and I are really close and we never part ways without a hug, a kiss on the cheek and am I love you.

During the past 3 months I have had a fair amount of progression and I’ve had two rounds of chemo. Normally we would have hugged a hundred times. I cannot explain how that felt. Over three months of not hugging my son has been so so difficult for me but I couldn’t go any longer. I NEEDED that hug and I guess he did too.

Hugs really do heal a person. I’m am sure each and every one of you that have been separated from their children over Covid will understand.

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My gosh, your picture and post brought a tear to my eye! Soooo wonderful! What a gift to have a son who loves you so much! Sounds like "mother" fares pretty well on "father's" day! Love to you both!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I truly blessed to have him as my son.

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You really are! I just got off a 2 hour facetime video with my son and daughter...If I could have found a way to wriggle through that screen to them -- on opposite coasts! -- I would have! I miss them terribly and am so glad that you were able to get that hug that we all crave...

[nstonerocks]

Now I’m sobbing. My son is across the country. I haven’t seen him in months. He is hard to be close to. I’ve had progression and I really feel bereft of hope. That kind off hug from my son might bring me some peace. I am so glad you and your son had this moment.

[Hidden in reply to nstonerocks]

Oh dear. I didn’t want to make anybody cry. I figured you ladies would understand how I felt. ❤️

[nstonerocks in reply to Hidden]

I do. That’s why it’s so emotional and I am so happy for your moment. Is there anything better in life than moments like that?

[nstonerocks in reply to nstonerocks]

And I don’t mean to rain on your moment. It’s the most heart warming photo I’ve seen in a while. Thanks for sharing.

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Nancy, I hope you're doing okay...When you say "I've had progression", do you mean since the new chemo or prior? Please forgive any intrusion, but I know I'm not alone here in caring about how you're doing...

Take care, be well... Lynn

[Hidden in reply to nstonerocks]

You didn’t “rain on my parade”. You actually understand exactly how much it meant to me. ❤️. I just want everyone to be happy. I’ve always been the kind of person that hugs others to show my love and to make them feel safe (if that’s the right words). I’m sending you a huge virtual hug right now 💕. You can always say exactly what you are feeling to me.

[Hidden in reply to nstonerocks]

Those are moments that mean more than anything else.

[SeattleMom in reply to nstonerocks]

So hope you see your son, Nancy!! 💗💗

And hope your treatment isn’t too debilitating. So very much am missing your wit and wisdom on this board! 💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻

[8576 in reply to nstonerocks]

So sorry you can't be closer and be able to see him. I am sure he would send you virtual hugs

if he knows how much you miss him.

Cheers, June S.

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Thanks Sandra. I thought a happy moment would cheer people.

[8576 in reply to Hidden]

You did cheer me up and moved me emotionally. As I said, so lovely to see.

Cheers, June S.

[Wintervt]

Oh Sarcie,

Your picture with your son was priceless! I strongly believe hugs heal a person!

Sending you a virtual one!

xo Jade

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Thank you Jade.

[BluHydrangea]

What a great day and blessed with a hug!

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It was wonderful.

[MacroMom]

Oh, so wonderful! My son did the same to me last weekend when he was over. I started my usual "air hug" from 6ft away and he said, "Mom, can we have a real hug?" Of course we did and he just started sobbing... so did I! The last time was in March just as I was settling into chemo for the first time. It's a hug I'll never forget. I'm so glad you got to share that. They will always be our little boys, even when they are 30 and 6'2"!

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Your son sounds like mine ❤️Mine is 6’1” and 28 so they are close.

[SeattleMom in reply to Hidden]

Just had to add that mine is 29 and 6’2”! 😂😂💗💗

[Hidden in reply to SeattleMom]

Isn’t it such a coincidence that our sons are all around the same age and tall!!

[SeattleMom in reply to Hidden]

Yes—and all of them beloved!! 💙💙💙

[MacroMom in reply to MacroMom]

I wish our sons had a place like this to share their hopes and fears around our cancer diagnoses. I hate that my situation is taking up so much of his thoughts at a time when I'd just like him to be enjoying the possibilities before him. He wants to know everything and is a wonderful support; maybe it's just that I have a hard time letting the tables turn and being cared for as much as I was the caregiver.

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I agree with you 💯. My son worries too much and then I worry about him. It’s a vicious circle. A group like this where they could talk things over and see what is “ normal”.

I had a bit of a melt down two months ago and when I told my kids they Informed me they are adults and can handle or so to not keep things to myself. I think your son is likely the same.

[MyMiracle13]

I love that photo. All my children are very far from me. One in Singapore and 2 in Glasgow so I can relate to this. Prior to this pandemic, my husband and I would go to Singapore every couple of months to see our daughter there and twice a year to Glasgow to visit our 2 daughters. Now, that is next to impossible. We make do with weekly Zoom calls. I don’t know when we will next get to hug each other. I am praying hard that this Christmas we can all be together as a family.

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Covid has changed our lives so much and the little things that we take for granted like a hug are desperately missed. I hope you can hug your children again soon

[Staysha]

So so sweet! Happy happy happy!

❤️

[Red1246]

Oh Sarcie- so pleased for you your son came by and you had that much needed and overdue hug. Sending positive thoughts for your future treatment.

All best to you! 😍

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Thank you ❤️

[SeattleMom]

WHAT AN ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL PICTURE! It brings tears to MY eyes!!

💙💙💗💗🙏🏻🙏🏻

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❤️

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Hi Sarah,

The picture with your son and your description really warmed my heart and brought a tear to my eyes! I'm so glad you got to see your family and enjoy that hug with your son. You both needed it. I'm sending hugs your way too!

Sophie

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Thank you Sophie ❤️. I owe you an email!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

You're welcome, Sarah. There's no rush! Just whenever you have the time.

Sophie

[DTendler]

Just so wonderful!

[hdhonda]

What a happy story. Hugs from me to you too. Blessings, Hannah

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Thank you Hannah.

[mudakurag]

I soooo understand!!!

Your hug meant the world to you both.So happy for you. My son ,DIL and granddaughter came today after over 3 months of separation.We all had quarantined for 2weeks before this visit.

Wonderful !!!

[Hidden in reply to mudakurag]

Isn’t it just the best thing to finally hug them ? ❤️

[mudakurag in reply to Hidden]

YUP♥️♥️♥️

[Rotagirl]

A lovely picture, thankyou for sharing, it made me cry. My daughter and grand daughters are coming on Friday....I so need that hug as do we all. All the best to you,Fay

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Thank you Fay. I’m so happy that you will see your daughter and grand daughters soon ❤️

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How wonderful that picture is.

Looks like you made all of us cry - but in a good way.

Hugs are amazing things.

I am thankful my son is 13 (5 ft 11) and gives me regular hugs because he only goes out to exercise.

That hug will have done you the world of good, and life is too short to miss out on hugs.

Clare x

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You are so right Clare. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. My daughter lives with us so I can get hugs from her every day if she is willing lol.

[Valisa]

Well what a lovely post to read first thing this morning. I can see so clearly how special that hug was for both of you. It was probably the best therapy you’ve had in months. ❤️🤗❤️

You brought a few tears to my eyes as well. Happy tears.❤️

[Hidden in reply to Valisa]

I’m glad I could share this big with all of you. ❤️

[mariootsi]

Hugs do heal! I haven't hugged my daughter since March! It's awful! Happy you were able to get together, hug and celebrate!

[Hidden in reply to mariootsi]

They certainly do. I hope you can see your daughter soon and can get that much needed hug.

[mariootsi in reply to Hidden]

Me too! Thanks.

[Kimr2081]

I did the same thing. I just couldn’t stand not being able to hug my boys and their wives. I cried like a baby. There’s nothing like a hug to make you feel loved. So glad you made that decision and so am I.

Kim

[hearmysoulspeak]

Your photo is priceless...thanks for sharing . Brought cleansing tears to my eyes....

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You are welcome. We share the bad news, we need to share the good news also ❤️

[Totheriver]

So happy for you💕

[Teddielottie]

Wishing you lots more precious hugs ! lovely moment ! x

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Thank you.

[AnnaP668]

So happy for that hug for you. Does more good than any drug!

[Hidden in reply to AnnaP668]

It sure does ❤️

[RLN-overcomer]

Shalom: Sister/warrior. I pray GOD will heal/restore your body, so that you, and we all can hug, and not let go of our loved ones without worry once again. I send you hugs from at least 6-10 feet away, tearfully, and sincerely : Your sister/warrior/over-comer.