Any single women out there with advice regarding dating? I had a double mastectomy 2 years ago. My implants had to be removed due to infection, so I am living flat now.
I do use prostheses in my bras.
I am in my 60's and single. I would like to get out there and date again. I don't know how to go about it. Should I go online dating sites? Meetups? How and when do you tell someone about the cancer?
As far as rejection goes, I almost wouldn't blame a guy for not wanting to date a breastless woman. I don't necessarily think it's being shallow. Cancer is scary, maybe a man is afraid to get involved with women who have history of cancer.
P.S. The men weren't exactly lining up outside my door when I had breasts (before cancer); what should I expect now?
Although I'm not single and feel I'm not in a position to give dating advice, I feel that at our age, there's rarely a person who has a clean medical record, be it cancer, cardiac, or diabetes as the main issues we all face. As to being "breastless" (as I am now as well), any man who wouldn't accept me as I am is not worth my time and attention, anyway!Good luck to you in finding someone worthy of Your Love!
Greetings:Sister SeeSwee6 I did not have a mastectomy, but I did have a lumpectomy with a lot of marginal tissue removed ,which caused an indented deformity and scar in that now smaller breast.I'm thinking there are all of these available dating sites that cater to specific people. Maybe some one should create one for cancer over-comers who want to meet/date some one who also battled and beat cancer, or is sensitive to a women/warrior who has battled, and beat cancer.When I was going through my radiation treatments there was four men going through testicular and prostate cancer, and colon cancer sitting outside waiting also for radiation treatment.The question is would you or any other women/ warriors out there date a man, who has had a testicle removed, or has a colostomy bag, or a man who has some sexual dysfunction or scarring/deformity due to surgery,after having life saving treatment. I am talking about a man who is otherwise healthy , and who is in remission or is cancer free. Who's out there thinking of creating this site.This could help open up many more choices to a lot of people looking to find love.I pray God will send the right date/man/husband your way .I pray that person will see the inner beauty in the deepest part of your heart .None of us are perfect physical, emotional or spiritual beings. Only God our Creator is the perfect one ,with no blemishes.Amen
I cannot speak to your particular situation. Don't cut yourself short you may have many qualities that men could be attractive to, have you thought of companionship that could lead to a good friendship and eventually a love interest? Ask yourself what can I offer that
does not have to be sexual at first, Do a lot of research try to get good advice from sites that are reputable and safe. You never know who is out there waiting for you. Just
remember no one comes knocking unless you make yourself available.
Online Dating Sites for Cancer Patients And Survivors
by Life Credit Company | Feb 8, 2016 | Blog Posts | 2 comments
Online help for cancer patients exists in many forums: medical guides, resource lists, community forums and — in keeping with a wider trend — dating.
As society has increasingly grown to rely on the internet, and with the emergence of social media, online dating has rapidly risen in popularity. The social pressures of bars, clubs and blind dates disappear when singles are able to make connections first through the web before diving into a relationship.
One of the common benefits online daters reference is that they can avoid the often-awkward small talk that comes with first encounters and instead focus on finding potential partners who share their backgrounds, interests or experiences. That’s particularly relevant for people who have unique experiences like those facing cancer.
A diagnosis shouldn’t mean an end to the dating game, an opinion championed by Cancer Dating Service. The site connects cancer patients for both romance and friendship, noting the benefits of forging a relationship with someone who’s experienced similar struggles. “Other people like you are out there waiting for you, ready and willing to give you support and love,” the site urges. “You do not have to pretend in front of them that everything is okay when it is not just to make them feel comfortable. It is already hard for you the way it is.”
Users can join for free to create a profile, browse users’ profiles and send “flirts” to others. Premium membership allows for more profile options and user interactions. The process of making new connections, and maybe even love interests, can be both exciting and a self-confidence booster, which especially holds true for cancer patients. Isolation is a common byproduct of cancer, but online dating combats that trend. After weeks, months or even years of medical worries and woes, dating can be a welcomed and needed distraction to help refocus one’s energy.
The same holds true for people rebounding from cancer. Cancer Survivor Dating offers online help for cancer patients who are now cancer-free and looking to rejuvenate their dating life. The site explains how diving back into the dating pool after treatment can give the spark needed to kick start a post-cancer life. “This journey hasn’t been easy but you have made it through and are stronger for it now,” the site notes. “You’ve put aside dating because it was the last thing on your mind but now that you are healthy and feeling a bit more human, you want to meet someone new!
With Cancer Survivor Dating, you’ll enter a world of beautiful, strong, healthy individuals who have had cancer and want to meet others like them.” That bond links the hundreds of users who belong to the site. Singles looking to mingle are able to search through other members in their area, so they don’t have travel far to meet up. Even if that connection goes no further than a chat over coffee or sharing stories over dinner, having another person to lean on in the journey back from cancer is valuable.
here are three sites:
CancerMatch:: Cancer Survivor Dating and Social Network
CancerMatch is a powerful cancer survivor networking site. Meet people who are diagnosed with cancer from all over the world. With CancerMatch you can:.
Cancer Survivor Dating | Date Local Cancer Survivors
If so, let Cancer Survivor Dating introduce you to single men and women who are ... What makes our site so great is that we cater to keeping singles local so you ...
Cancer Dating Service | Dating Service for Cancer Survivors
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Greetings : Sister/Warrior Daf10 thank you for posting the dating sites ,that I didn't even know existed. I am sure this post will be helpful in finding love, to so many who grapple/stress with the idea of dating after treatment. God's continued blessings to you for all that you do to encourage,and empower us all on this site.Amen ! !
I was 58 when diagnosed and had just been married for two years, with mets from the get go. My husband is not someone I would have been attracted to when I was younger but he has been a wonderful husban and partner and has not shied away from me or any of the physical changes I have experienced with this cancer. I agree with other posters who have said that a man who is worth getting serious involved with is not going to run away just because a woman has cancer or has no breasts! Anyone who would do that is not a good candidate for a serious relationship! As far as when to mention it, I don't think there is an absolute rule about that, not a perfect time. If health comes up, that might be the time. Obviously before getting naked together! I think the most imporant thing for any one is to be comfortable with yourself and as a single person before considering any serious relationship. You need to know you are okay as a person before you can be really okay as a person in a relationship, and cancer doesn't change that it just adds another dimention to become comfortable with. Not that any of us want to have cancer......
Well, thank you all for your comments, but in my opinion, married people really don't get my situation at all. Also, I don't necessarily want to meet a man who also has cancer, so those type of dating sites are really not for me.
Have you considered breast reconstruction via abdominal flap surgery? They take fatty tissue from the abdomen to fashion a breast and then tattoo a nipple. My man has been very supportive about it and sometimes cracks an occasional joke about its appearance relative to my other breast! Seriously consider reconstruction instead of "going flat"; aesthetically it looks better if appearance is your concern.
I cannot do any more surgery at this point in my life. I know what flap surgery is.
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you also already have someone in your life so that is ot my situation
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