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[Baldylocks]

Many know my story since PC drastically changed my life. It begs a question on mental health. I feel that through the support of a great many here and that of a strong friendship that I have righted the ship in my mind but there was a time I didn’t know if I should remain amongst the living. No need for intervention now because through no part of my own help came in a timely manner. At this point it’s to ask if everting is indeed right.

Should a heterosexual man seek psychiatric help when embracing a sexual attraction change of mind?

I’m that man but I feel I’m in a comfortable headspace with it, yet intellectually it puzzles me.

[Hidden]

because I am a christian I can only suggest you seek spiritual guidance on this matter. It’s not for me to sit in judgement but I am obligated by my faith to make this recommendation. I wish you success with your journey

[Baldylocks in reply to Hidden]

I too am Christian and first and foremost carry all to my Lord. I’ve never found true commonality between Christian’s on what is Godly vs worldly and lacking The Holy Ghost. I am seeking science because it’s a tool I believe provided by God not in spite of. I am weighing psychiatry for scientific answers to my physiological and phycological quantry. I take your answer in the spirit I believe intended and very much appreciate the time you took to offer me help.

[jimreilly]

If it bothers you only "intellectually" do some reading! But I wonder, that since you're asking if you should seek counseling, if maybe there are questions a good counselor can help with, particularly one who understands that sexuality can be fluid. And if there are spiritual questions for you, as there would be for Lumpy below if this had happened to him, there are plenty of churches (I don't know if you're Christian or not) where you would not be condemned (to either Hell or unhappiness). But there's also just the "simple" question of change; any big change can bring questions with it--this one involving how you see your life, past, present, and future. Some people who have lost a spouse find counseling helps them when they are ready to seek or have a new relationship, and this change is more complicated than that, involving questions of how openly to live as gay or bi or whatever in whatever community you find yourself. And it's no secret that some communities/families will be more welcoming than others; some counselors who work with gay people report that many of the problems dealt with involve unwelcoming or condemning families, institutions, communities. Give yourself some time to both think about this and talk with others. Including a counselor if you wish. Best of luck!

[Baldylocks in reply to jimreilly]

you always offer such sound advice irrespective of any detectable bias. I’ve come to expect and appreciate such from you and give weight to it. thanks

[jimreilly in reply to Baldylocks]

You're welcome, Baldylocks!