Overthinking

[dmike19]

I hate the fact that I was hurt in the past and the past has always caused me to overthink and over do everything. It made me the way I am and I hate it because what it’s gonna do is eventually ruin everything for me😤 I just want to stop over thinking. I just need some advice on how to stop over thinking everything. I really want to be with this girl and I have feeling if I don’t stop overthinking it’s gonna end it

[CHPA]

With out more specifics, which you might not want to provide, it is hard to offer advice much more specific than saying “don’t over think things”.

What I would offer is that everyone has been through hurtful times in life. It’s part of life and it leaves a mark. But it also becomes an ingredient in the recipe of our lives. Living through hurt makes us more resultant and more empathetic to others who have difficulties.

[Hidden]

Just try to understand that that feeling of pain that comes over and over is a complex that is maybe related to guilty, do you feel it was your fault the origin of this feeling of pain ? If yes, it was not your fault, maybe you didn’t know what it was going on at that time. The most important thing is learn from the passed mistakes. Just breathe deeply and try to live in the present, not in the future and not even in the past.

[Modestmale]

For me, it’s very hard to get over past harm. One exercise I am using to prevent overthinking is presuming that I can never definitely predict the future. Whatever the overthinking trigger is, it is probably more likely to turn out better the next time.

Having learned from past harm, I am better prepared to avoid it in the future.

This does not eliminate anxiety but it sometimes reduces it (converting it from overwhelming and crippling to controlled and manageable.)