I am at the end of my rope, i will never accept myself, this anxiety will never stop

[some-guy]

I don't know what to do, i hate the fact i have such a small penis. Im in my early 30s and have been trying to overcome this for years. I cant.....i just cant, when i lookat my penis, it looks so ridiculous, like a child's toy, it feels so pathetic and humiliating, im tired of having anxiety attacks over it all the time. It may sounds ridiculous to you guys but its ruining my life, i cannot enjoy anything, my small penis is like a poison shadow that follows me every second.

I have been in therapy for a while. I learned tools to deal with it, but they dont work for long. This sense of dread and humuliation always comes back stronger than ever.

I measure it over and over again , as if expecting something will change, as if i was wrong last time. this time i'll measure it right.......

I watch men in the locker room have flacid bigger dicks than mine erect, everywhere i go should a male penis be mentioned or shown, on the net or real life, its way bigger than mine.

I struggle to keep my erection or even achieve a full erection when i try to measure. It goes down so fast. But here are the absolute most precise measure i could achieve.

Erect lenght : between 13.2 and 13.5 cm 5.2 to 5.3 inches

Erect girth : 13 cm (5.1 inch) shaft base / 12.5 shaft middle (4.9), gets narrower near the tip , over all 12.5 cm is probably the overall girth

People tell me im average but i dont believe that for a second, this feels like the absolute bare functional minimum on a good day.

Im so tired , i can't take this anxiety anymore, and i can't escape it

[westbury18]

According to this, you are a tiny bit above average: webmd.com/men/what-is-the-a...

I am gay. I have seen MANY erect penises. When you said you were small, I thought you were going to say 2-3 inches. Five inches is fine. Some people prefer a lover with a smaller penis as there is less chance of getting hurt by it. Don't judge yourself by others in the locker room - men are "growers or showers'. In other words, you can have a small flaccid penis that grows a lot when erect, or a large flaccid show-off penis that doesn't grow so much when erect.

Don't also judge yourself by the adult entertainment you might see on the internet. Many male p*rn stars are actually very short, so their average-sized penis looks big compared to their body.

I've had lovers with penises way smaller than yours. A couple of men had what I would refer to as micro penises (around 2 inches when erect). One of them is now happily married, so it was no bar to him meeting someone. There is even a dating site for men with small penises (dinkyone.com/), so some people are definitely looking for that. However, at 5 inches, you are average and probably too big for that.

[some-guy in reply to westbury18]

I don't know if i believe that this size is average, how can it possibly be, its looks so tiny i doubt it can do much at all , just 1 of my hands is more than enough to cover most of it, i have seen many website on the internet talking about average size, Sure some of them tell me im average, others that im quite small. at the end of the day isnt the internet trying to push this idea of average down so men like me dont just hang themselves in humiliation. why is every man iv ever seen bigger than me if im so average

[some-guy in reply to some-guy]

Please dont take me wrong, im not arguing, my comment is basically me spitting out some of the crap turning in my head like a hurricane. It feels so real to me , those thoughts, i know how they look so hilarious to others, but for me, my hell is real

[Tryingtosee]

I'm sorry you feel you are small but you definitely are not. An erect length of 5.2 inches is absolutely normal. Believe me I have seen plenty of penises in my lifetime and your length is the most common size I've encountered. Again your girth is absolutely normal. As long as you have a good working penis by which I mean your skin goes back ok and lets your head out when erect ( assuming you are uncircumcised) and your erections are strong you have nothing to be concerned about. I know guys who would be very happy with your size.

[some-guy in reply to Tryingtosee]

I'm circumsized due to phimosis, i don't know if my penis works fine, i feel likei have ED, even though i have been to many doctors and done every test , be it blood, imagiry , and a bunch of stuff i dont evenknow how to describe, yes i get erection , but i struggle to keep them, sometimes i dont struggle to keep them sometimes i do, seems to be worse when im masturbating, if i stop stimulation for even 2 seconds i lose my erection instantly, but at the end of the day i have tried so hard, in therapy and alone, to work on this, to speak to my sexual partners, to somehow get it out of my head and i cant, every night when im alone, everytime in the day i get some random boner, in fact every mention of sex , maybe even so much as a movie, i remember how pathetic i am, and its a panic attack all over.

[Petit4incher]

been there and could write the book. Only person who can help is you. Learn too accept that yours is different but YES still enjoyable. You’re a grower not a shower. Trust me 5-2 erect is average sized Look at urself in mirror not looking down at it. We see ourselfs in a different state that way

[jaglad]

As I have said to others, it ain't what you got it's the way that you use it !

Don't stress about it, stop measuring and start enjoying.