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i cant remember what day in january i quit,after smoking for only 6 years(i dont know why i even started, frankly!!) but my husband was on the verge of another bout with pneumonia(from smoking, i think) he hadnt smoked for 3 weeks, had smoked for 53 years, was having a terrible time dealing, so i quit after using the gum,thinking it would help him, and then just vaping my favorite flavor, (cherry chocolate) he took up again, still coughs violently, all the time, ive concluded not to even talk about smoking anymore. so, i did buy him a vape pen with the highest nicotine, he has yet to try it, even tho he agreed to try. i will not pressure at all. just waiting to see him get so violently sick, and try something else long term, or watch him die.( yeah, sounds horrifying, but it is what it is. i have no choice cuz he cant take the pressure. its VERY hard not to say something, so i will leave, yes leave the matter in Gods hands, and not take the problem back.

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I am so sorry to hear the problems that your husband is having but i can understand how you feel . I also have a husband who won't stop although he is on the vape  in between cigarettes even though he has COPD. I  also stopped partly because we were to do it together. I think you should be really proud that you have stopped its even harder when you still have a smoker in the house.  We are all here for you .


Hi nonskermo and a big warm welcome to quit support😊

Sorry to hear about your hubby and I'm in the same boat as you coz he won't even try to give em up and has the most horrendous cough all the time😡 Thing is ya just can't make someone quit, I've tried everything and he's having none of it😩 

i know how hard this is for you and you have made a good decision to leave it alone, I agree with you about this. Be very proud of your achievement as this has taken courage and dedication to get to, well done🚭👍🏼

Quite a few of us on here have smoking hubbys so we really do understand how difficult it is☹️ 

We say NOPE not one puff ever🚭 and if you need anything just shout as we have a terrific quit family here. 

Good luck🍀😊


Brilliant post you said it so much better than i did lol.


Oh you're toooo kind😉

You're doing great with your quit and helping others as well, delighted for you🚭😊


Hi Nonskermo, its lovely to see you here and a big warm welcome to our lovely quit support community :) and WOW, your doing so so well on your quit :) and I'm soooo PROUD of you and I hope you are too :) :) 

As J160 and Briarwood have said, there are quite a few of us on here that have partners that still smoke, myself included :o You cant make them stop, they have to want to stop :) 

Please have a look at the Pinned Posts to the right of your post, cos there's lots of help on there :) and please, please feel free to come on here and flippin SHOUT if you need to, cos it helps gal, it really does :) :) 

Rite, your not sure of your quit date, soooo, I will put your quit date down as the 15th January 2016, then I can award you with a Winners badge :) if this is not to your liking, then please feel free to slap the backs of my legs and I will alter it for you :) :) 

Hope to speak soon, Pete :) 

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God is good, he has a plan in place always, even if we stray or do not understand.

as Philippians 4:6-7 says:

Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.  Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.  Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand.  His peace will guard your heart(s) and mind(s) as you live in Christ Jesus.

praying for you and your husband both.

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