We all agree that quitting requires a fair degree of self discipline & control. That's me! I'm good at it, you have to be to train for & run a marathon. Call it stubborness or grim determination, I have quit successfully (?) for between 4-7 months on 4 occasions over the past 2 years (and on 4-5 other
occasions in the past 10 years). However, what I failed to do was develop new pathways to stimulate those happy chemicals, so when depression struck, the old pathways presented as the only viable option for relief. now some will build those pathways on food or alcohol or perhaps other drugs, but those of you
who have read my posts before would be aware that I have deliberately avoided substituting one addiction for another, which has left a gaping hole with nothing but that 6 lane expressway to fill it. I tried using my love of golf as my "happy place", but anyone who plays the game will tell you it is an unreliable alternative if you're having a tough time off the course & it manifests itself on the course as well. At the risk of sounding all religious, I want to throw in an analogy. In the bible it says "resist the devil & he will flee from you". that's what I did, I resisted manfully & resolutely. However, in its full context, the scripture also says "submit yourself to God". In other words, resisting, on its own won't deliver us from the bad unless we replace it with something better. I have yet to discover what that "something better" is. Perhaps I'll find it further on in the book. If anyone wants to throw up some suggestions, I'm all ears.