Uncomfortable Vibes

[MH1982]

Hello, everyone and here I am once again due to another struggle that I find myself facing. Recently, I confided in someone about the struggles that I've been dealing with. At the time, it seemed like the right thing to do, but as time went on. I found myself regretting that decision. Today, this person called me on the phone and at first, things seemed fine. As the conversation went on, I found myself experiencing the same uncomfortable vibes. Is this all in my head or is this something that I should be taking seriously? For the most part, this person means well, or at least I think they do, or I think they believe that they do. The trouble is that sometimes I feel like they look down on me because they don't understand me or the struggles that I've faced and am currently facing. I try to explain it to them, but I feel like they're not listening. It's like I'm speaking to deaf ears. They also seem to favor my sister which I find to be hurtful, meanwhile, they try to tell me what they think I should be doing. They don't appreciate my achievements, my passions or desires. Instead, they devalue them, meanwhile, bragging my sister up and putting her on a pedestal, and promoting her. They'll also go as far as to insinuate that I'd be good enough under circumstances (dressing "in style" and getting my hair cut and dyed). This doesn't make feel good about myself. I already don't like what I see in the mirror because of having to hear for my entire childhood about how ugly I was. I have a difficult time trusting people and as time goes on, I find it to be an even bigger struggle as people continue to show their true colors more and more.

[Bigoldogsmiles]

Hi Mh I once had a wise person tell me if the relationship is good it will feel good. If it's bad it will feel bad. Trust your instincts. A true friend will accept you, not try and change you.