Bpd breakup

[Donald79]

Hi. I'm not sure if this is the right place. But I need help. I think I might have ptsd from a relationship with a girl with bpd. It wasn't a bad relationship until she moved. I was suppossed to move out there a few months later. We had all these plans but after a week she got cold and stopped returning texts and ignoring phone calls. Before we d talk all day everyday. That's what she wanted. Then she said she needed a break said we were friends but was so cold in everything she was saying. That was never her. Said things she said in the past was just because she thought that's what I wanted to hear. And now I'm here alone trying to make her see that i care and I'm here for. Im mentally not ok anymore though. I don't know how to getvover this void inside me

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I’m Sorry to hear you’re in such a bad place right now. I’m not much help right now. I’m looking for the right place to recover myself. I can’t help explain what or why you feel you have PTSD. I’m not educated enough. I’ve had my PTSD diagnosis for decades. I just learned today I have a rather new diagnosis C-PTSD.

My experiences with relationships have always ended badly. They had issues and I did too. I don’t know if one break-up meets the criteria for PTSD, but I do know it’s hurtful and painful. I learned in treatment I was in co-dependent relationships as a result of growing up in a dysfunctional home.

Apparently, I was the enabler who was always super loyal and always willing to be there no matter what. It was a shocker to hear that in the beginning and now I have a new shocker. Not only am I scared for life , it just learned it started long before I became an adult. Scary stuff learning I most likely had 1 or maybe both parents who suffered from some form of undiagnosed mental illness. The narcissist stuff really makes me sad for them.

I have no contact with my siblings or my mother. Dad died about a year ago. It’s better for me, but like you I feel alone with nobody who understands me. Sorry I’m no help with dating. I quite dating about 10 years ago after my last husband died.

I miss having someone to talk with everyday like you said. What I don’t miss is the constant roller coaster rides. I’m ashamed to say it, but with all 3 exes gone now, I feel relieved. That includes my dad too!

Wow! I can’t believe I actually wrote that. What kind of person does that make me ? If I can help in any way, I would be happy too! If you don’t have a therapist that would be a great place to understanding what you’re going through. Each of us are unique and what works for one may not work for another. Anyway, you’ve got a friend if you need one. Sending best wishes your way!