Have you ever really wondered if everything happens for a reason? Sometimes it is really hard to accept that sort of thinking, but ... this... this right here ... is an everything happens for a reason moment.
First, my Mom had always, for as long as I can remember .. I can hear her saying , “I would be happy with windows all around me” —- she has always loved sitting, relaxing with her cup of coffee or tea ... and wishing for a better view.
We sold our home 2 years ago, built a house that would offer a first floor bedroom/bath ... without too much detail - we were completely unhappy with the builder, the development, and the lack of trees. We decided to sell it —- Bam! Sold in 28 days ... and we found the perfect house!
You know when you know when you know? Well, this is it ... and my sweet Momma could not be more happy, and so are we! Meant to be!!!
Momma is doing ok - she sleeps a lot, swallowing is still an issue, but we are managing. Our stand assist is our miracle discovery, and we love being able to get mom around the house —-see the plastic mats on the floor; makes it easy to push her around vs. carpeting.
I do have to care for Mom 100% - personal hygiene, feeding, everything ... but, there is an amazing sense of humility in honoring my Mother in this season.
To those of you new to this forum ... you are in the right place to support this unique and most difficult journey —- I have made some wonderful friends and confidants, that should probably send me an invoice for their invaluable counsel.
Finding the slivers of joy in these chaotic days
— xx Kim
PS - I do have help now - respite twice per week (5 hours x 2 = 10 hours for me to do whatever I want to do for me! 😉)
((Hugs)) Kim
An amazing room with a view Kim. So good for your mum to be able to see the changes of seasons and hear the bird song. I have also thought that everything happens for a reason. OK, we don’t always understand at the time but one day, maybe a long time later, it all becomes clear.
Enjoy those 10 hours Kim. I felt it a privilege to be able to care for my darling husband but I did value the 8 hours a week I got and used them to see friends, visit places nearby, continue with a hobby etc. It also gave me something new to talk to Colin about, tell him funny things friends had said or done, things happening in the village etc.
Enjoy your new home Kim and continue finding joy in a world of chaos, there is still plenty to be found even if it doesn’t feel like it sometimes.
Sending you a big hug.
❤️XxxX
NannaB I have missed connecting with you. Yes, the 10 hours is such a re-fuel for me, and I would impress on anyone reading this thread to definitely seek out quality help, and allow yourself to have "me time" -- I am such a better caregiver with the refuel.
((HUGS))
Kim
👍🏼❤️XxxX