So, I had a speaking engagement tonight in Denver, Colorado ... After 25 years, I can do this in my sleep .... a complete stranger comes up to me and says, “I’ve heard you speak before, but something tells me that your vessel is empty ... you need to fill up and take care of yourself.”
It was quite profound for me. I viewed this couple of days away (after arranging help at home with Mom) the opportunity to mix business with a spa day ... I have been worried constantly and cried all the way to the airport ... I don’t like being away, but I do intend to soak up my day at the spa tomorrow before flying back home. Taking deep breaths. Xo
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I know it's horrible to leave your Mum, but if you don't, your Mum IS going to suffer big time! You getting a rest is the most important thing in your Mums care. Anyone can do the practical things, but only you can tell her you love her and she needs that far more than anything else.
I can relate to your tears and your worries over your mom.....but you being there, or not being there, doesn't prevent.......
I wish for you total joy...and as Heady stated what's important is to constantly tell your mom she is the BEST MOM ever, and YOU are so grateful that she is YOUR mom. I know you do, and I know your mom KNOWS, but like photos you can't have too many, and like "I LOVE YOU", you can never hear it too much.
I absolutely understand how hard it is to take a break from the caring role. It takes so much effort to prepare everything and then the challenge of actually leaving. Well done for getting away and for including the day Spa. A little bit of ‘ you time’ is incredibly rejuvenating.
Years ago I was at a conference when a Psychologist was talking about burnout she used the pie analogy. We start everyday with a whole pie each time we give to others we give s slice of pie, when something nice happens to us we get a slice of pie back if we have a little pie left at the end of the day we have reserves no pie or a deficit of pie = on the road to burnout.
I found short breaks though incredibly hard gave me perspective. I returned home calmer and more logical ready for the next challenge. You and your mom will have lots to talk about and she will have had a break from you too!! My hubby although he always hated the thought of my little breaks beforehand enjoyed the ‘independence’ it gave him.
I hope you to will return refreshed and start planning another little break -no one can run on empty.
Keep remembering that feeling... The more you practice it, the stronger the neural pathways for positive emotion are (say bio-psycholigists).....😊👍☀️🌈⭐️
Isn’t amazing how people are placed in our lives, say the profound things that we need to hear, and impact us positively. You are one of those people for us. It is truly a blessing to have you a part of this forum “family”.
Bobby ... thank you! It was absolutely perfect! I did hot stone massage for 90 minutes, and it was superior ... right down to the little toe hot pebbles! Heaven! ((Hugs))
yes , I agree. It is so hard to leave the caring role especially when they look at you and say "But when will you be back?". But you know that last night you felt at the end of your tether so you go. ... when I return home I am the most enthusiastic carer / wife / chief cook and bottle washer that you could imagine. So I know it is good. ...Actually I am lucky, when I have my 3 or 4 hours break the carer who comes for CH cooks a savoury dish big enough to last us for 2 nights so I dont even have to cook. :).... so take your breaks when you can. It is better for all.... Val
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Mom is not breathing good, unable to speak and 
My amazing Dad took his last breath yesterday….
My dad was rushed in hospital today,he's stable at the moment but critical.he has a mask on that is helping him to breathe,
