Heartbroken

My beautiful mum is now at peace and free from struggle. She passed away peacefully this evening. I haven't posted much on here but do read and have found great strength from others' experiences . One thing I do want to pass on is due me living so far away from my parents we had no other option than to look for a nursing home for mum in March. This at the time filled me with utter dread and upset at the thought of mum never going home. I felt useless as I felt it should have been me taking care of mum and dad.

I can honestly say that they have cared for my mum (and dad) with such compassion and dignity. Over the last few very difficult days they have been supported all of us in ways that I cannot explain. If you are faced with this prospect I hope you draw strength from this post. There are some true Angels out there.

Much love x

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  • I am sorry for your loss, and hope you are comforted by the knowledge that you did the right thing for your parents. There are no easy choices. Thank you for sharing yours. Be well. Love and peace, ec

  • I AGREEE WITH YOU EC

    V SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS BUT YOU WILL SURVIVE IT

    I AM S URE

    LOL jill

    zzz

    zxxxx

    PSP PEROSN INTHE UK

  • So sorry that your dear mother has passed on but how fortunate you have been in your choice of nursing home. These carers do play such an important role. Perhaps this is not understood well enough by so many. I had what can only be described as rotten care for my father and it is something that after two years even I find hard to come to terms with. Well, your mother suffers no more and you gave her the best experience you could. Take heart and cheer from that and count your blessings. I know it is such a sad time. X

  • I'm so sorry for your loss but as you say, your dear mum is now free from this awful condition.

    Thanks for sharing the experiences of the care staff. It's something none of us want but sometimes it has to be, so hearing positive comments helps.

    I hope your dad will be able to find some joy in the future, after years of anguish.

    Thinking of you during this difficult time.

    X

  • Dear Bob - my sympathy to you and your dad during these sad days.

    We are all faced with difficult decisions throughout each step of this so much hated disease... and even though you felt bad about leaving your mum in a nursing home, I hope you find comfort in the fact that you found her one with people who actually cared, not a given in these penny-pinching days.

    Take care,

    Lieve

  • Sending you lots of love 💙

  • sorry to hear your sad news but happy that your mum is free from her suffering. Thank you for the reassurance that there are good nursing homes out there who treat your loved ones with dignity and respect. We all dread if we have to use the services of a nursing home not really knowing exactly the care they will deliver. Be rest assured that you loved and found the best care for your mum and now she is at peace. X

  • May the angels above give you peace with your decisions. Your mom can be at peace now. She knew that you loved her and she still does. I worked in a nursing home for 6 years before going back to school. I was one of the directors for the activities. There are a lot of good people out there that care. Blessings of comfort to your family during this hard time.

  • Thank you for sharing your experiences. It is good to hear positive things.

    May your family draw together at this sad time.

    love, Jean x

  • So sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. X

  • my thoughts are with you i and wish you peace

  • Hi, really sorry to hear that your Mum has passed away. Now free of this evil disease.

    I agree about your comments about nursing homes. My mother had to go into one a year ago, due to Alhzlmers. It was dreadful at the time, but now, she is the happiest she has ever been in her life. Fit, well and always got a smile. Something I don't remember from before!

    Sending you lots of love and a big hug at this awful time for you.

    Lots of love

    Heady

  • So sorry for your loss. And yes, I truly believe their are Angels out there. I thought I would lose my wife before Christmas, and then before the New Year. But miraculously she's gotten a lot better and stronger. But I know we still only have a short time before she succumbs to this horrid disease. I constantly pray a cure comes soon for her and all my dear friends around the world.

    I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    Ketchupman

  • Be at peace that you did your best for your parents . Your Mum is no longer struggling with the effects of a terrible illness and you have the consolation that your father is in a place that will take good care of him. It is easy to beat oneself up and feel guilty, as we too suffer, due to PSP. Your parents showed you how to care, you have cared for them. It is now time to care for yourself too. X

  • Sending you a hug as you grieve and struggle with the relief that she can suffer no more, it's good to hear that she was well cared for . Every one is different but sometimes one can give more love and support to a loved one when they have not got to care 24 hours. Some years ag I watched my dad on the brink of despair and suicidal trying to care for my mum at home . I begged him to allow her to go to a hospice,eventually he gave in and we had several weeks of quality times with her in that hospice. My dad was relaxed , happier and so was she , she told me. Other situations call for 24 hr care at home , it's what suits you best and gives a better situation to the sufferer, so don't beat yourself up cause she was in care home. You did what was right for her at that time. X

  • So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing your experience with the nursing home that took such good care of your mum.

    Take care now

    D x

  • My thoughts are with you xx

  • So sorry for your loss, I know how you feel as I lost someone very precious last year. However I am sure you find some relief in the fact that she is no longer suffering.

  • Peace be with you.

  • Much love to you at this difficult time. It is never easy losing a loved one no matter what the circumstances. But you can feel relief that she is no longer suffering from this God awful disease and feel at peace for having made such a wise decision in finding a wonderful place for her to be in her final days. I speak for myself but know there are many others who dread the thought of not being able to handle being the sole caregiver. You have given many of us assurance that it would be ok and reassurance to those who have taken that step as well. So thank you for that! Please be kind to yourself and remember the good times.

    Take care,

    Jayne GC

  • Thoughts and hugs tor you, takecare be strong x

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