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Keep Positive!! 1000 marbles

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As I sit here on this MOM's DAY. I reflect on our journey (Ray & I). It has been several years since his diagnosis but, I am blessed with a very supportive family that loves on him daily. Being surrounded by young people helps loads when you have to shoulder the care. I have a caregiver that comes in twice a week and helps with bathing and my daughters help on the other days. I work full time so I am so blessed to have their help. God is great! I know that our time together is limited but, I am reminded of the marbles story...stay the course & remember life is short, make the most of it!

1000 Marbles

The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday mornings. Perhaps it's the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it's the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.

A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the backyard patio with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning, turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it.

I turned the dial up to listen to a Saturday morning talk show I heard an older sounding gentleman, with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business. He was telling whoever he was talking with something about "a thousand marbles".

I was intrigued and stopped to listen to what he had to say...

"Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you're busy with your job. I'm sure they pay you well but it's a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter's dance recital."

He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities."

And that's when he began to explain his theory of a "thousand marbles." "You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years."

"Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime.

Now stick with me Tom, I'm getting to the important part."

"It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail", he went on, "and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy."

"So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round-up 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away."

"I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight."

"Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time."

"It was nice to meet you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your family, and I hope to meet you again.

You could have heard a pin drop on the radio when this fellow signed off. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to work that morning. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. "C'mon honey, I'm taking you and the kids to breakfast."

"What brought this on?" she asked with a smile. "Oh, nothing special, it's just been a while since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we're out? I need to buy some marbles."

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AliBee1 profile image
AliBee1

That is lovely. Thank you xxxx

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Helen119

Awesome the lesson of life, needs to be thought about daily, might buy some marbles! Xxx

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SewBears

Bittersweet, makes you really stop and think doesn’t it! Thank you

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Mikey12345

What a great story! Thanks for sharing it.

Liz

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Yanno

At last...a good use for marbles! Great story.

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dollydott

I love that story seawink

Thank you

Lynda 😊

Perfect story... thanks for sharing! I love Marbles & have a jar full on my nightstand. I will think of them in a new way now. Sending Hugs... Granni B

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Melhukin

I love this 🥰

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Hiking13

That is beautiful and just what I needed to read

Sarahx

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JubileeRanch

Wonderful analogy. This whole thing has been such a journey for me personally....

I have so many things on my plate still, must get our home sold that we moved out of to live at our Ranch....I periodically have a melt down about my husbands infidelity which he revealed just before this past Christmas, it’s an involved story but oh my gosh, devastating can not begin to describe.

A couple of weeks ago I did sell my husbands car since he was not driving anymore. That was hard, also several months ago I got rid of his phone which is a needless expense, each of these steps are so hard.

We are both praying for restoration and healing which I DO believe is possible, that is my hope and prayer. Bob is doing really quite well considering how long he has had symptoms, since 2013.

The important thing for me is forgiveness, hasn’t been easy but God is good and He has given me peace that is hard to comprehend.....

Counting marbles is such a profound way to realize this life is short and making the most of EVERY day is so important. Bob has asked me to remarry him and I said yes! We plan on having a ceremony under this HUGE oak tree in our courtyard, the same tree we had his 30th birthday party 39 years ago! We are concentrating on loving one another and making up for time lost.....

I think I will get the marbles and when I run out I will begin to put one back for every extra day God gives me/us....

😘💜❤️

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SewBears in reply to JubileeRanch

I love your reply. Especially about refilling the marble jar to celebrate extra days given. Beautiful!

I’m holding on to hubby’s golf clubs because he still thinks that one day he’ll play again. Sigh... It took a long time for him to let me give our bicycles and bike rack to some children down the street. We used to ride our bikes across Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, into Sausalito CA, a long long time ago. There we would have a lovely lunch and then ride the ferry back to SF. Great memories!

I’m still paying for his cell phone but maybe I’ll reduce the plan. He makes one or two calls a month with my help ,but talking is getting much more difficult for him. I wonder what else I haven’t thought of to scale back on 🤔

Congratulations on your wedding! Forgiveness is a powerful thing. I love you Jubilee.

Xoxo from I SewBears

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JubileeRanch in reply to SewBears

Still have his golf clubs as well....and mine. The house we moved from was in a gated community with a really nice Country Club and a beautiful course. We often played together, Bob thinks he may play again....our ranch manager and I created a driving range 250 yards long with flag makers, a T-Box the whole deal....so he can go out and practice if he wants however he has not done it much. I will never give up or give in, we just take things day by day and pray pray pray 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Tillie281

The children live to far from us to help me take care of my loved one.

Often the strain gets too much and I scream in frustration and I can see the sadness in her eyes.

I am going to buy one thousand marbles and two jars.

Every day I will move a marble from jar one to jar two.

Jar one will remind me how many days I can still enjoy her presence.

Jar two will slowly get filled and will remind me of the days I had the privilege to be with her.

Thank you Seawink

T

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